Does Submission to My Husband Make me a Traitor to the Women's Liberation Movement?
That is the privilege of human beings, to choose, and I spent years trying to help make sure that women everywhere had those choices. I burned plenty of bras, marched until I had blisters, and fought for the right to drive a garbage truck in the middle of summer's nauseating heat wave. Woohoo!
Many years later, in a supposedly more enlightened age, I made another choice: The choice to submit body, heart, mind and soul to a man. It wasn't an easy decision, nor was it a decision that I made quickly. I considered every possible aspect. I considered this man's trustworthiness, his capacity for true and honest interactions, even the fact that he didn't need another mother and could darn well do his own laundry and knew how to run a vacuum cleaner. I wasn't going to be his maid, well, unless we decided to roleplay "Maid and Duke of Earl". And I certainly wasn't going to be his patient, well unless we decided to roleplay "Dr. Demento and the Innocent Virgin", but that is another story!
Apparently, and much to my amazement, I became "The Traitor" to many of my former friends. I had CHOSEN to give myself to a MAN! My inquiries of, "Hey! Wait a danged second here, isn't Women's Liberation ABOUT choice?" were met with smug faces and snorting sounds emanating from friends who had been friends of mine since junior high! A few of my female friends even went so far as to question my sanity!
I knew that I was more sane at that time than I had been during any other time in my life. This 'mere' man became my Master, my Husband and the Love of my Life. He nurtures me every single day, as do I, Him. We share life and loving and growing. I've never felt so empowered, so strong, as I do every day of my life with the man I CHOSE.
So, the answer is yes, a resounding YES! I am a traitor to "The Cause", and loving it, every moment of every day. Hoorah for Women's Liberation!
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Post a Commentyour man is lucky, women need to be protected at the best of times and dissiplened at the worst of times so submiting, obeying and surrendering to him obiding by mans rule im young and can only hope to achieve a DD marriage with my girlfriend when i make her my bride
The article and the comments said already everything. Lucky and brave are the women who can allow themselves to follow their wishes, and not the wishes the whole world says they are supposed to have.
Applause.
Too bad more women didn't have the forsight to become plastic surgeons. Boob jobs from sagging breasts are at an all time high. So much for Bra-burnings.
The Old feminism ideals had great intentions, and a stifling implementation. I feel it's the same with the current brand of Womanism. It, with it's socially conciousness jargon, holds perhaps a bit more credibility than the Old feminism, but yet still has terrible implementation.
The problem comes with a) The amount of groupthink-turned-selfrighteousness such groups are prone to, even as they dissemate truisms ala the academic halls of theory (lol) and b) The patriarchal stylization (call it militarism) with which they are too often implemented.
It's putting old wine in New wineskins (or was that new wine in...) well anyway, it's the evolving cultures of dogma that create more polarization than progress. Yet YOU seem to get it. It's all about enabling others (and being enabled) with better and better choices - choices which
I am glad to see that you are confident enough to write that your husband is, among other things, your master. It is great to hear that he is the love of your life and that you willingly submit to him. These words need to be spoken out lout with pride for our young women to hear and aspire to.
That is not to be forced into submission but to willingly, with a well rounded education, with an open mind, to desire to submit to their husband. To obey him. To look after him.
When a woman does this, most men react positively. They in turn begin to look after her. No longer needing a 'what's in it for me approach'. No longer having to wonder do I do this in order to get that from her. Now they know they will get their food and sex. That is a given.
Now they are free to actually concentrate on her. To observe what she likes. To buy her sweet little I love you presents. To look after the kids while she goes out with her girl friends for a night off.
It just becomes so
Congratulations, mr smoke, on your relationship with your wife. I will say, that while I appreciate your comments in a way, I think you may have missed my point - that point being that feminism IS about choice, or at least for me, it is. I do not reject feminism at all, in fact. My husband is a more fervent feminist than I, but again, that is choice, the purest form of freedom.
In addition to my post of 10/09/2006. My wife is Asian. She knows about feminism but rejects it. Women cant live without love from men. Feminism cant exist without men to hate. I have mocked and ridiculed feminists to my wife. We have threatened each other with violence, court, police, etc.,(the feminists agenda)and gotten a big laugh out of it. Why? Our defenses are lowered. We know none of this will ever happen. We live in peace and recognize that its all ridiculous paranoia. I never thought I would be this happy. We both admit that we cant live without each other and dont want to. Thank God for submissive women. I have removed feminism from my life and it feels so good.
Feminism - men = zero.
You are absolutely correct. I was married to a liberated women. I hated it. After this experience I have learned to automatically avoid liberated women. My second wife is the exact opposite. She is submissive, and has no trace of masculine qualities. I am stimulated by her to a high degree sexually, and emotionally at the same time. This is a new experience for me. A liberated woman can only stimulate me sexually. They are to masculine to stimulate me emotionally. Submissive women are more important than liberated women! I am extra nice to submissive women. A liberated woman can never hope to compete with a submissive woman for a mans love, except by calling her weak, and the man she loves "weak", for loving her.
It concerns me that the first comment on this article says that you are less than a woman. LOL I guarantee you are certainly NOT "less than" anything!
I think it is all a matter of choice. If it works for you and your partnet then that is fabulous. We were not cut with cookie cutters so different things work for different folk.
You are a rare and lucky woman able to make the rare choice of a good man. I am glad to hear someone tell the side of a woman's choice rather than repeat the broken record of what society thinks women should be doing. I think your article could use more explanation about this type of submission versus the christian concept of submission to a husband in a 'traditional' relationship. That might be a good subject to write on.