Domestic Violence: Why Kate Gosselin Will Never Stay with Abusive Man

Would an Abusive Man Ever Be Drawn to Kate Gosselin?

Jillita Horton
Kate Gosselin staying with an abusive man? It's a myth that "any" woman could end up trapped in an abusive relationship. (Read these articles - about this outrageous myth.) Look at Kate Gosselin. Can you imagine her STAYING with an abusive controlling man? This isn't to say that one day, if Jon & Kate divorce, Kate would never find herself getting beaten up by a man. That just might happen; if she enters a new relationship, she could push the man over the edge with her controlling ways and end up with a black eye.

However, is it even remotely conceivable that Kate Gosselin, like many women out there, would actually forgive such a man, believe his pathetic insistence that he'll "never do it again," be taken by his pleas for forgiveness, and continue seeing him? NO WAY! Kate Gosselin would kick him out in an instant! If he refused to leave, she'd have the cops haul him away. Kate Gosselin definitely seems like the type of woman who has a "one strike and your OUT" policy.

An abusive relationship doesn't have to be physical, as in the Jon & Kate case. Kate is the abuser and Jon is the victim, the abuse being of a psychological and verbal nature. The reverse happens all the time as well: A man is hell-bent on controlling his wife or girlfriend, incessantly bossing her around, criticizing her, belittling her. Often, the criticism is targeted at her weight, body, housekeeping skills and intelligence.

In the Jon & Kate case, Kate has taunted Jon for his hair loss, pudginess and heavy breathing. She has scolded him before the kids, in public and privately, speaking to him in a demeaning way, much like the control freak of a man will speak to his submissive victim of a wife or girlfriend. Often, the woman stays with the man. People wonder, "Why doesn't she just LEAVE?"

Kate Gosselin would definitely leave such a man, after the first incidence of physical abuse. If the abuse was a verbal slam, she would surely fire back, rather than retreat. The man, then, might slug her one. At that point, Kate would end the relationship. There is no way she would ever allow any man to "chip away at her self-esteem" with disparaging remarks.

Kate Gosselin is too hard-driven and take-charge for that; too much self-value and narcissism. Call it a mental illness, but it does not prevent her from functioning in society, and it would protect her from ever staying with an abusive man.

Now, Jon, on the other hand, has put up with Kate's abuse for 10 years. That says a lot about him. He finally left her, but in a most dishonorable way - by cheating with other women. Maybe he didn't have sex with them, but he was cavorting around with them at suspicious places (bars) and at 2 AM on at least one occasion. Though Kate drove him to this point, Jon shouldn't have forgotten that when he cheated on his wife, he let his kids down.

The proper order of things is: 1) Marriage counseling, 2) Separation, 3) Divorce, 4) See other women.

Published by Jillita Horton

Freelance writer for fitness print magazines and fitness Web sites; ghost writer for fitness Web sites   View profile

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  • barbee 12/24/2009

    In her marriage, Kate WAS the abusive man. She abused Jon in every concept of the word, physical, verbal, emotional, mental, ....

  • OfficerJill 11/23/2009

    I have arrested and put men in jail for less than I have seen Kate do to John on TV!

    If John had treated Kate the way she treats him he would DEFINITELY be in jail. I remember one episode they showed her smacking John over and over, this seems like it's funny, but it's not, it's abuse.

    She is Insulting controlling and abusive, there is no way around it. Again, if in the coarse of my job I had witnessed this behavior I would be required by law to arrest her and she would most likely be charged with DV and have restricted access to her children.

  • Linda 7/4/2009

    Kate is pure evil....If she were wed to my son..I'd put my foot in her ass. I hate thi8s witch..Get her of TV

  • kayg 7/1/2009

    Kate is an abusive spouse. Slapping, hitting ("love taps"), insulting, degrading. It's amazing that she is defended. She selected a passive, unambitious man (and he was dating someone else at the time), pressured him to marry, pushed to have children immediately and then again, even though her husband didn't want any more children. She gives him an allowance and controls not just him but his children as well. Tell me, folks, if Jon was the woman and her husband treated her the way that Kate treats him, would you say she deserves it? Using pain and humiliation is a GOOD way to control another person's behavior? They were a disaster waiting to happen. I feel sorry for the children, because no matter who gets custody (passive and permissive or controlling and violent), they lose.

  • jean 6/22/2009

    Jon is an drunk, self-centered slob. Kate had to keep directing him, because he was always in a stupior.

  • Kate 6/2/2009

    Jon may have enjoyed the attention given to him at the bar and I don't blame him. Kate belittles him not only in front of the viewers but in front of his children. Kate is on the prowl. You can tell this by the changes in her clothing, showing more skin and wants to be the center of attention. Look at the faces of their children. They are not happy Kate is not doing this for her children because she is self centered, it's all about her. She quit her job as a nurse to become a stay at home mother. She is no longer the mother, Jon is doing it all. She better wake up and realize that there is no other man on earth who would love her children than their own father who wants nothing more but a normal family man.

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