Don't Add to Graduation Stress by Asking These Questions

We are fast approaching commencement season where new grads and families will celebrate accomplishments. Although graduates are all smiles on the outside, there is a certain level of graduation stress bubbling just below the surface. This graduation stress comes from the anticipation and anxiety about finishing coursework, wrapping up campus business and planning for the future. As you participate in graduation celebrations this year, stay mindful of graduation stress and avoid asking these three questions.

Do you have a job lined up?

After a decade of working with new professionals transitioning from colleges to careers, the graduate who does NOT have a job lined up at graduation, is the norm. Yes, some students will have already accepted job offers, but most will be getting ready to start the job search after graduation. Instead of adding to graduation stress levels by asking if the new graduate has a job lined up, invite them to contact you after the dust settles to see if you can assist with their job search. Especially since you understand they are graduating in a tough economy.

How much do you owe?

This question is almost like asking someone about their income. Graduation stress level spike when new graduates come to terms with how much they owe for student loans. Most new grads also know that the six months grace period will go by quickly. Unless you might be offering to cover the first few payments as a graduation gift to the new graduate, keep this question out of the conversation. Instead of adding to the graduation stress by asking how much they owe; remind them that education is an investment and they have their entire lives to make it pay for them.

What on earth will you do with that major?

Some new graduates struggle to answer this question right after graduation. So few of us select the "right" major and career the first time. Instead of adding to graduation stress by asking this question, ask the graduate to share more about what skills they would like to be able to use to sustain themselves in the future.

Graduation stress is a real phenomenon. Spend time in the moment celebrating the accomplishment. There will be plenty of time for tough questions later.

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