Don't Bother Staying Home with Your Kids: It is Just Not Worth It
Reason # 1 ~ You Can't Afford To
You can't afford to! That big whopping nine to five job that you have is sucking you dry! With the cost of gas in your car, maintenance for your car, lunches out, day care and professional work attire, you are broke and simply can't think of not working right now.
Reason # 2 ~ Stay At Home Mom's are lazy
The laundry magically washes itself, the kids are perfectly content to sit quietly and stare at the walls, dinner is ready at the snap of a finger and the dishes just hop right into the dishwasher and take a bath, while you just sit around lazily watching talk shows.
Reason # 3 ~ I will go crazy
This one is the best! The kids drive me crazy, how could I possibly spend twenty four hours a day, seven days a week with them? It is just not worth it to see them take their first step, he will step a thousand times, and god knows she will utter her first word over and over again. The occasional fight between siblings driving you crazy far outweighs watching him sit up on his own for the first time.
Reason # 4 ~ My daughter will be nobody
If I stay home with my children, my daughter will think it's okay not to do well in school or succeed in basically anything. She will just figure some man will take care of her while she does nothing for the rest of her life.
All great reason's! Why bother staying home and watching your children grow and learn, when it's so much easier to work forty hours a week in order to pay someone else to do it.
The point I am trying to make is not that it is wrong for women to work outside of the home, but that it is so very important for them to be involved in their children's lives, important for them to see those first milestones and the memories that go along with them. It's gone in the blink of an eye, don't waste it!
Published by V. L. Hamlin
V. L. Hamlin is a writer, foodie and crafter. She graduated from college in 2000 with a degree in Liberal Arts. Hamlin has been writing online content since 2006 and is currently freelancing for Demand Media... View profile
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Post a CommentI loved that excuse about "my daughter will be nobody". Yeah. My mother and my grandmother were both stay-at-home moms. Though my grandmother never went to college, my mother has a B.A. in French, an M.A. in political science, and is fully bilingual. I am 23 years old, unmarried, and a registered nurse. I have a B.N. and am going back to school in the fall to begin an M.N. so I can become a nurse practitioner. I have my own apartment, and pay my own bills. Moreover, about the "kids driving you crazy" thing-I'm one of 6 children. All of us were homeschooled, and my father sometimes goes away on business trips that can take him away for up to two weeks or more at a time. My mother is one of the strongest women I know. If she can do it, just about anybody can.
Nothing wrong with a guy staying home to watch the kids. No one says, "what will my son think if I stay at home?"
Mr. Mom's are the new Mom.
Every real parent is a "working" parent, whether they have a job outside the home or not. But as for "working [outside the home] moms hav[ing] to all the things in #2 as well," the answer is no. Women working outside the home either (a) have a husband or SO who picks up some of these tasks, since they both have jobs, and/or (b) hire or pay for other people to do some of these things. For example, if you pick up dinner on the way home, you're not cooking, you're paying someone else to do it for you. If you take the kids to daycare, you're paying someone else to educate and amuse them (at least for that part of the day). Etc. Look, being a fully-involved, stay-at-home parent is a SERIOUS job, certainly more demanding than most outside-the-home jobs, and I can't see how it's physically possible for one person to actually fulfill all the roles of an at-home parent AND have any sort of outside-the-home job. Any parent who takes a job is making at least one of these choices: share responsibi
Great article! I've had these very same thoughts when I've had friends tell me "they just can't AFFORD to stay home". It's all about choices. I've done both and I can tell you, staying home is ENORMOUSLY more difficult than working & sending the kids to daycare.
correct me if i am wrong, but working moms have to all the things in #2 as well, don't they? you want people to respect your decision to stay home, maybe you should start by respecting the decision other women made to not stay home.
Saw your title and read this one, prepared to argue with you. Then you turned the tables on me. Great job.
This was wonderful. :) I loved the sarcastic approach. While I understand that staying at home isn't for everyone I do agree that some of the 'excuses' people give are annoying. Sometimes people really and truly can't afford to work, but many of the lines get on my nerves. Just be honest: I don't want to, or I don't believe there's benefits to it. Ya know?