"Don't Get Me Anything"--What She Really Means

A holiday is around the corner, and your wife, girlfriend, significant other, or mother - a female of the species - says, "Don't get me anything." What does this really mean? Do you believe them and get them nothing? Don't.

Men, women, and children. Listen closely. Women, whether mothers or wives, girlfriends or significant others, have been saying this for years. Generations. I'm a woman. I've said it. Trust me.

Don't believe them. It's not what they mean. It's not what they're really saying.

If a man says, "don't get me anything," believe him. He doesn't want anything. He won't be the least offended if you pass on spending money, or time, on him. He won't be expecting a gift certificate, tools, or even a special Hallmark greeting card. When a man says, 'don't get me anything," what does he mean? He means that he expects nothing. N-o-t-h-i-n-g.

But when a woman says, "Don't get me anything," she does NOT mean it! If you take her at her word and don't get her anything, you'll likely crush her, even if she doesn't admit to it.

Saying, "don't get me anything," is a woman's way of saying something like the following:
I know your budget is tight. I don't expect you to spend hundreds, or thousands, of dollars on a present for me. So it's OK with me if you only spend a little bit of money on my present. I'm not expecting a lot from you for this holiday, birthday, Valentine's Day, Anniversary, or whatever event we are celebrating.

Here is what she really means when she says, "Don't get me anything:"
I don't need you to spend a lot of money on a present for me. I just need to know that I am important to you. I need to know that you love me. I need to know that you love me enough to notice what I like and care without my telling you what I like. I expect that you already know what is my favorite color, flower, chocolate, jewelry, etc. I am hoping that you ignore what I really said, and get me some small token that shows me that I am important, loved, thought of, and valued by you.

Mothers say, "don't get me anything," to their children. Women say, "don't get me anything," to their spouses or significant others.

When you hear this phrase, remember it means that you need to get them something small, something personal, something that tells them that you love them, notice them, and thought of them. Don't ever believe them. Ever.

For gift ideas for this woman, read my article titled, "Gift Ideas for the Woman Says, "Don't Get Me Anything," For Holidays, Birthdays, or Special Events."