Dontdatehimgirl.com: Helpful Information or Man Bashing for Women Scorned?

QUICHE
QUICHE, Yahoo! Contributor Network
Nov 9, 2007 "Share your voice on Yahoo! websites. Start Here."
Recently I decided to check out the site "dontdatehimgirl.com", and the stories there were very interesting. It gives the name of the men, the relationship that the woman had with him, even at times a picture. Going through many of the post I realize a pattern; the women tell on themselves. If you're dating a man and find out that he has five children that he doesn't take care of, why in the world would you allow yourself to be mother number six? One woman on the site actually had the nerve to be mad at the guy's mother, because she didn't divulge information about her own son! Most of the situations really could have been avoided, because the red flags were there and flapping in the wind furiously.

The comments section listed under the posts are really what get me, because other women who've met the man get a chance to post their story here. Believe me when I say they get very graphic! They do however have a he said/she said section where the men have a chance to plead their case, but a majority of the men aren't even aware of the post I'm sure. Many woman will give details about the relationship they've had with the alleged perpetrator; enough to let him know who's talking about him, and others prefer to remain anonymous. Thank goodness there have been no fatalities due to this site; some people have no limit when it comes to seeking revenge.

There is another point that I would like to bring up; are these posts accurate? How many of us have been hurt by and man and want nothing more than to be able to hurt him in return. Plenty of us I'm sure, but you will never see me post anything about an ex on any site. DDHG really makes me wonder if the women aren't just mad because they allowed themselves to be made fools out of. In their defense though, it may be a smidgen of truth to the things stated in their post. Why not just consider your experience as a lesson learned instead of belittling someone on the Internet. This is the type of thing you'd expect to see from a teen aged girl that just had a nasty break-up with her first love; not grown women. Always keep this in mind though; what one person experiences may not be the same for you. There is a chance that a person will make a change for the better, or that the person giving you information is simply just a liar.

I understand that some people are really great at selling themselves, but if you're dating someone for a period of time seems like certain things would eventually surface. First of all if you can't give me a home phone number, then apparently there is a problem. In this day and age plenty of people choose to use a cell phone, ok that's fine. Maybe you should visit his house from time to time to make sure that the female cousin is really a cousin, or that his mother is living with him instead of a girlfriend or his wife.

One thing that really made me appreciate the site were the helpful numbers that are posted under the resource section; such as domestic abuse and counseling.

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  • Newark-East Orange-Orange Losers12/20/2010

    I recently met a guy name Jerell and just so happen I know someone he already know's. So I asked for his last name and went on this site and I got some good information. Small world because now that I know poeple he know's i've been asking around about him and everything I read is true. He slept with alot of women and he is a bumb. I wouldn't want to waste my time on him.

  • FreedomofSpeech12/20/2010

    ThankGodwehavefreedomofspeech.Anyoneanywherecanpostwhattheywant.ItdoesnothavetobeconsideredBASHINGIthinkitsagreatwebsite.IvebeenontherelatelyandIthinktheinformationisinformative.

  • Tyler Mills1/9/2008

    I figured this site would have been shut down by now due to all the litigation it begs for.

  • Zenovia B.11/29/2007

    This is a great review and you are correct about women or men always getting telltale signs about the person that they are dating, and they overlook them. When the relationship does not go exactly the way they would have wanted, then they are ready to seek revenege.

  • Kim Linton11/29/2007

    I watched a news piece on this site a few days ago. Excellent review!

  • cathiesbloggs11/18/2007

    Great Review!!..I have never heard of this site..will have to check it out!...

  • Alyce Rocco11/9/2007

    His mother lied for him to the ladies. The lady he lives with kicked her own late teenage children out of her house (which my ex moved into) after the son and daughter's boyfriend got in a fight with him after he molested a 13 year old girl who was sleeping over. If she had spoken to me, she would have put my ex out instantly. As mentioned even OGD's can be fooled by charming players. But I do agree a lot of the girls that post on the site are part of their own problem.

  • Alyce Rocco11/9/2007

    My ex is a good example. He was living with one lady, seeing another on the side and trying to get me back. Both of those ladies thought I was the witch queen of New Orleans and both should have had a conversation with me about his real nature. Even when he moved in with his "side" lady, he continued to see his other lady; she was sure he was going to come to his senses and come back to her. Both of the ladies thought he was a Viet Nam vet; he was never in the military and they did not even believe his daughter's and his brother when they told the truth.

  • Alyce Rocco11/9/2007

    I found this site quite some time ago while I was looking for a women's site that lists men who are guilty of domestic violence and abuse. I did see boys there defending themselves and giving their side of the story. Girls do not have enough experience to spot red flags and even OGD's can get fooled by experienced con artists. When it comes to guys, females are way too trusting about what he says about his ex(es).

  • Mommy2Lots (M2L)11/9/2007

    Great review! I have often thought of this site as nothing more than a way to get back at an ex as well. People make mistakes. That doesn't give someone the right to publicly bash them. I think that the consciences of the people who would post such things should also be checked. To me, if you are doing something like this to get back at someone, then you are being no better than that person who wronged you. Besides, what if they later made amends? Now their personal relationship info is splattered on the web.

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