Easing the Transition Back to School

With school already started or starting soon, concerned parents must address many questions that their children may have. This is, of course, especially true for the kindergarten student. I have worked in kindergarten for the last five years and, believe me, the worries are greater for parents than they are for children. Nonetheless, there are some points that should be addressed.

Surely, tears are expected during the first week of school. This is, sometimes, an unavoidable problem. However, it is of little significance for the teacher. She is well-versed in how to handle this situation and the crying does cease as soon as Mom and Dad are out of sight or ear shot.

Perhaps your child has fears about finding his classroom or whether or not he will find any friends in school. This fear also is easily calmed. Try stopping by the school before opening day. Even if you are unable to meet your child's teacher, you will familiarize him with the building itself. You and your child may even get to meet some other important players in your child's scholastic career, such as the building principal, school secretary, or the school nurse.

When it comes to dealing with the question of friends, remind your youngster that everyone is new on the first day. Suggest that each child is feeling apprehensive and that he is no different from anyone else. While some professionals may guide parents to ignore the fears of their children, from my professional standpoint, this is a mistake. It is far easier for a child to deal with his feelings if they are, at first, at least acknowledged.

Remind your child that school is only a small portion of his day. Assure him that, as soon as school is over, you or a pre-determined adult that the child is comfortable with, will be there to take him home. Also, remind your youngster that school affords him the opportunity to meet new people which will allow him the avenue for many fun and interesting after school play dates.

Most importantly, remember to set aside some time each evening for one-to-one time for you and your child. This is a practice that I have employed with each of my three children, now adults. It is a personal time that will prove invaluable as your child matures and affords you, as a parent, an avenue to discuss many issues as they may arise.

Maybe the best piece of advice is for you as a parent to relax. Take pride in the fact that you have gotten your child to this point and that he is about to embark on an adventure that will guide his future. Praise all of his accomplishments and highlight his great achievements. Do not dwell on the negativity that is sometimes a part of the scholastic experience but rather accentuate all of his positive results.

Remember your child's teacher is an ally and never hesitate to speak to her should you have any concern. Together, your child's teacher and you can secure success for your brand new, "grown up" student.