Educating Your Child About Sex

Although it may be uncomfortable and embarassing for both parent and child, it is very important to talk to your child about sex from a reasonably early age. After all, would you rather tell your child about the risks involved or have them experience them on their own or learn from a peer? Schools do offer sex education to students around age 11 or 12. However, it could possibly be too late once this course is given and you might prefer if you tell your child rather than a teacher or counselor. It is said that more than 25 % of fifteen year olds have had sexual relations. Many adolescents begin having sexual intercourse or doing other sexual related things around the age of 12 or 13.

You should know what you want to talk to your child about before the conversation begins. Try not to embarass your child and make them feel as comfortable as possible. Because sex is a natural act, there is no reason to make your child feel like doing the deed is "dirty". You are simply educating your child about the risks that engaging in a sexually active relationship brings.

When you sit down with your child, ask them what they know about sex. This will give you some kind of information about what your child already knows and will allow you a starting place for your conversation. Take into consideration your child's age and maturity level as to what you discuss. Some kids will be more aware than others. Older kids and teenagers can often understand that not only does sex bring pleasure and enjoymnent, but that there should be an emotional feeling involved.

Rather than telling your child that it is wrong to have sex, educate them about the right time to begin having sex. While it is very important to stress the importance of abstinence, you also have to be realistic and understanding. You might choose to focus on religion at this point and share that a man and woman should be married before having sex. If nothing else, let your child know that it is up to them to decide when they begin taking part in sexual activities. Make sure that your child understands the importance of resisting peer pressure and being firm and saying "No". It is your responsibility to educate your child so that he/she is able to make an informed and intelligent choice regarding their sexual health.

Most importantly, educate your child about birth control and practicing sex safe. Protection is of upmost importance. Your child should be able to come to you for birth control if they decide to become sexually active. Remind your child that anytime they have sex, they are allowing a possibility of pregnancy or disease. Although using birth control or condoms can greatly reduce the likelihood of pregnancy or diseases, neither are 100% effective.

Do no leave any of your child's questions or concerns unanswered. If you are not able to answer your child's questions, find someone who can. Seek the advice of a doctor, counselor, other parent or spouse to help in your discussion.