Effective Consequences for Disrespectful Teenagers

So many times we are tested by our young adult children, as parents we show respect by treating them as young adults, because they have displayed the maturity to deserve that, as parents we teach this. On the other hand that does not always last, just like a phase, maturity can come and go, some teenagers can be very negative, an over all negativity, this makes it very difficult to continue showing respect. I have five grown children, the teenage years, some were a nightmare, but if you just have the regular problems to deal with, you can get through it, if these problems are more severe, sometimes a parent can not do this alone and may need outside help. The best way i have found to deal with disrespect is give back a little disrespect, a dose of the same medicine usually does not taste very good. Your problems could range from, not cleaning their bedroom to cussing out the teacher at school, then maybe you have a teenager who only shows negativity, you have to give them a reason to be positive, as the parent your child still looks to you to fix everything, sometimes our children do not listen to us then when something does not go right we are the first to know about it. Effective consequences of disrespect would be, taking away privileges they take for granted.

. Take away the car keys, they may need to walk where they have to go in order to think about their situation.

. Negativity, keep giving a positive outlook, to their negative outlook , for some reason there are times when we don't know anything, but they will remember what you have said.not cleaning their room, not picking up after their self, try adding to their list of chores, by not washing their clothes anymore.

. Or if they are an older teenager, send them to the laundry matte, this will give respect back for that privilege, does your teenager slam doors?

. Bedroom Door slamming, take the door off of their room., this usually works, because a teenager demands privacy even if they don't understand the meaning.

.At school, you go up to the school, show and tell is the best way to turn someone around, take the situation and turn it around embarrassment usually works,everyone is different, but some of these problems are so similar.

. Money instead of giving it, have them work for it, this can give them a respect for money. No cable TV. Unless learning something for school, educational,

. If all else fails i would recommend counseling.

Usually the everyday challenges can be dealt with at home and at school, everyone is not the exact same so each family can just use common sense, everything on the list works, this has been my experience with my children.