Emotionally Self Supporting

Are you emotionally dependent? Do the people around you have to be happy for you to feel happy? Do you have to be in a special place to be at peace? Does everything have to be "done" in order to feel satisfied? If the answer if yes, then you are emotionally dependent on people, places and things. This is a terrible way to live!

Old thinking and dreams

Remember the fairy tales? Prince Charming would always whisk the beautiful Princess away on his white horse and they lived happily ever after! For years those fairy tales were a reality in my mind. Prince Charming would come and life would be wonderful. From the very start.....I had a problem with reality. And if you were the Prince, could you not find your "white horse" or the Princess? Life was always going to be better when.......

Years of false dependency

Growing up was a matter of trying to find the right combination. We had to have the right people, in the right place, with the right things around. That meant changing or "going through" a lot of people to find the right Prince Charming. Changing places was a little less traumatic, however changing jobs was constant. No job was the right one. Things.....oh yes the "toys" were numerous. Always the next purchase was going to be "right one" that would bring eternal bliss! We were sure the next car, the next boat, the next hobby, the next house would be the right one. The next job just became work. The next car just became used and with a payment. The next boat or hobby became boring and expensive. The next house was in the wrong location and not the right size. Ad infinitum. Nothing satisfied for very long.

Just quit trying!

The old saying is true. "Happiness is not getting what you want, but wanting what you have." There is only One that I can have complete trust in and dependence upon. Look through your Bible and you will find all the responsibilities and promises of God. I did. He promised to take care of me.

Learning to be rid of false dependency

A woman who was my mentor in this new way of life told me something very important. There was only 2 ways God could help me.......1) in the "right now" and 2) in the "Truth". He cannot help me in the past and He cannot help me in the future.....just right now in the present. That is the only reality there is for me. God does not operate in the grey or the black....only in the Truth. If I operate anywhere other than the present or in the Truth, then I am on my own! Self-sufficiency is good as far as it goes - it just does not go far enough! God also promises to give me everything I need. When I have a need, I ask Him first. Then wait.

Fully self-supporting

God and I are a majority! In the years of learning to live this dependence on God and not other people, places and things, all my needs have been met or exceeded. I do not specify how or when. (much) I no longer try to guess the time or the method. (often)

Today I am very happy with what I have. I could have made a list of what I thought my life would be like and I would have short-changed myself drastically! Dependence on God is the only way to go though life. God is good. Amen