Empty Nest Syndrome

According to Psychology Today the "Empty Nest Syndrome refers to feelings of depression, sadness, and/or grief experienced by parents and caregivers after children come of age and leave their childhood homes." This syndrome is commonly associated with kids leaving for college; however, it can occur when children move out for any reason.

Although this syndrome affects some men, women are more often affected. This is because women are often dealing with other stressors, such as menopause or caring for their parents at the same time that kids are moving out on their own.

It is normal to feel sadness when children move out. The time of raising your children is over. It is almost paradoxical that if they are ready to move out on their own you have done your job well, when you wish they would stay. If you find yourself wanting to spend time in the room of your absent child's bedroom in order to feel closer to him or her, know that this too is normal behavior.

If you feel that your life or value as a person has ended, or you are crying and can't seem to stop, these are signals that it is time to seek the help of a therapist. Other signs that you need professional help are that you are having trouble getting out of bed to go to work, and no longer find joy in being with your friends. Remember that asking for help is not a sign of weakness but a sign of strength.

Many persons with Empty Nest Syndrome benefit greatly from seeing a therapist and having their family health care provider aware of their condition. Sometimes hormone therapy is needed if you are going through menopause or an antidepressant may be in order.

Be gentle with yourself during this time. Try practical things to help you feel better. Spend time with your friends. Take walks. Exercise increase hormones in the body that promote well-being.

You may find new activities to explore. Perhaps it is time to pull out hobbies that you didn't have time to pursue in the past. This can also be a time to pursue a new career path, such as writing.

If possible, begin to prepare for the empty nest while your kids are still living at home. Socialize more, develop hobbies, and explore career and educational opportunities so that you are prepared when the kids leave the nest.

Make the most of the time you have while everyone is still living in one house. Make opportunities to go on several family outings prior to your child's heading off on their own. Take a vacation from work just to spend with that child (make sure the time you choose suits your child); let them know how important they are to you. This will be a good beginning to your future together.

Source:
http://www.psychologytoday.com/conditions/empty-nest-syndrome