Establishing a Successful Breastfeeding Relationship

With all the horror stories floating around about mothers who were unable to breastfeed, many expectant mothers find themselves worrying about whether or not they will be successful in breastfeeding their new babies. Most of the problems that mothers encounter stem from lack of information about breastfeeding. Don't let misinformation undermine your chances at having a successful breastfeeding relationship.

Breastfeeding success tip #1: Nurse in the delivery room
Studies have proven that the sooner a baby is put to breast after birth, the easier it is to establish the breastfeeding relationship. Do not allow your baby to be immediately whisked away to be weighed, measured, bathed, and inspected. All of those things can wait. The nurses and doctors are in a hurry to get things over with so they can go on about their day, but your baby's well-being is more important. Put your foot down, and get your labor coach's support in this matter. Unless baby seems to have a physical problem, there is no reason not to nurse immediately after birth. The baby may not be hungry, but her instinct to nurse is strong, and you want to encourage that instinct as soon as possible.

Breastfeeding success tip #2: Avoid nipple substitutes
This means no pacifiers or bottles, especially during your hospital stay after giving birth. Many babies can take a pacifier or bottle at a young age with no problems - but for others, introducing a nipple substitute can create a nipple preference, often called nipple confusion. Nipple confusion is one of the biggest causes of breastfeeding failure. If at all possible, wait at least 6 weeks before introducing any kind of mom substitute. If you must introduce a bottle, look for one with a slow-flow nipple. A faster flow will give milk more easily than the breast, and baby will likely get lazy and not want to nurse. Better yet, use a cup or syringe to administer expressed breast milk to your baby. This will eliminate the risk of nipple confusion.

Breastfeeding success tip #3: Find a lactation consultant
Try to get in touch with a lactation consultant (LC) as soon as possible after giving birth, to help correct any latching problems and answer any questions you may have. Your local health department and WIC office should have an LC on staff, as should your hospital. If they don't, or if you prefer to find someone on your own, La Leche League can help you find an LC in your area. LCs are specially trained to help you meet your breastfeeding goals, and they can help you in the event that any problems should arise.

Breastfeeding success tip #4: Ignore the clock
This is especially important during the first 4 to 6 weeks of life. Many new mothers worry about "spoiling" the baby by allowing him to nurse on demand - but I can assure you, this should not be a concern. Young babies need to nurse frequently in order to establish a sufficient milk supply and to learn to trust their own hunger cues. At this early stage, the most important lesson you can teach your baby is that you will meet his needs as they arise, and he need not go hungry. He will be less stressed, resulting in a happier, healthier baby, which in turn will result in a happier, healthier mommy. Everybody wins.

Breastfeeding success tip #5: Research, research, research!
As with anything else, breastfeeding will come more easily to you if you are prepared. There are a number of great books on breastfeeding that can help you. (I recommend "The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding.") There are also countless websites filled with breastfeeding information, support, and resources. Research as much as you can before baby is born, and even while nursing. I have now been nursing my daughter for 8 months, and I continually learn new things about breastfeeding.

Breastfeeding success tip #6: Find a support network
A big reason that many mothers aren't successful with breastfeeding is lack of support. You need to have somebody in your corner, be it your spouse, friends and family, a mommy group, or a La Leche League group. Even if these people know nothing about breastfeeding, you need someone who will back you up and cheer you on. There will be tough times, even in the best breastfeeding relationship, and you need someone to help you stay motivated and positive.

Breastfeeding success tip #7: Be patient
Even though breastfeeding is a natural process, it doesn't always come naturally to mother or baby. It is a learning process. Problems may arise, especially early in the breastfeeding relationship, and it is important to keep your cool and be patient with yourself and with your baby. If you are stressed, your baby will pick up on that and get upset, and it will become a cycle.

Becoming a new parent always carries a great deal of pressure. Breastfeeding can be a wonderful experience for everyone concerned, but if you're not prepared, it can also be a source of incredible stress. Boost your confidence by arming yourself with the knowledge and support you need, and you're sure to be able to establish a healthy, successful breastfeeding relationship with your new baby.