Etiquette of a Threesome

I know what you're thinking...is this for real? I'm always trying to find topics to write about that most people wouldn't even dream of. The fact is, most people are at least curious about the idea of a having a threesome. Is there really some sort of etiquette to having a threesome? The answer is yes. In fact there are even self-proclaimed experts on the subject.

Go ahead...call me crazy. If you're reading this, then you must be at least a little bit curious about the notion of a threesome or you are completely appalled by the idea. One thing is for sure, now you are thinking about it. In fact, according to Suzy Bauer-a self proclaimed threesome expert, most women are bicurious. Fifty years ago, the threesome was a hush hush topic, and considered morally wrong, but times have definitely changed. Sure there are some moral codes and barries that most women would never break, but then there are women who openly embrace their sexuality without fear of moral repercussions and eagerly participate in the act, if they are completely comfortable and self-assured. If you are in a stable, and I do me stable relationship or long term relationship, a threesome may be something you have considered. In today's society, the threesome is becoming more and more commonplace and is often very discreet. I do agree, a threesome is not a good choice or a lighthearted decison for anyone to make. It takes a high level of trust between all three parties involved, especially those involved in the relationship.

According to the experts, there are a number of things that can make a threesome successful. First and foremost, a threesome must be planned and somewhat organized. If your a man, let your woman be in charge. Let your woman feel comfortable in her skin and choose the person she would feel most comfortable with joining in on your sexual adventures. If you are a man, I strongly suggest you DO NOT suggest a threesome, or pick a girl in advance. This is a key to disaster. Stand back and let your woman be in control of the tempo and tone. t doesn't hurt to plant a seed every now and then...like enticing your woman with some sensual ideas or magazines/ books/movies. She may find that she likes the idea of experimenting with another woman. Most women are bicurious just because they know that women tend to be more sensual and can relate to them on their own level. Women tend to be more soft and enjoyed prolonged pleasures. Sensual kisses, soft caresses and gentle hands can be very enticing. It is important that your woman is completely comfortable in her choice or she will freeze up in the moment. One of the most important things a guy can do in the threesome scenario, is to move at the woman's pace. Don't direct the events, let them unfold between the two women so that they are extremely comfortable and uncompromised- if you have to let them be alone for awhile and include you when the time is right. You may have to stand back for a bit, but It will definitely pay off in the end. Also, It is best if all parties involved are aware of what they are doing and not under the influence of alcohol. Alchol tends to lower inhibitions, but it also creates regret if abused. Alcohol must be minimal and used only as a method of relaxation if necessary. Overindulgence will only cause problems.

Keep in mind that a threesome is as Suzy Bauer says, "a seven course meal, not a smograsbord". The idea is to enjoy yourself, slowly and take in every moment, making the experience amazing and satisfying. All three parties should come out of the scenario feeling relaxed and energized at the same time. There should be no regrets, no doubts and no fears. In the end, you may want to do it again. Threesomes can be done successfully and may even enhance your sex life. It isn't something I or any expert would recommend doing all of the time. It would be safe to experience this indulgence once in awhile if all parties are willing. If you are a guy-you must let your woman make that call. She might find that she likes to do it as a special treat for the two of you. Always be safe and protected and educated on threesome etiquette. When all three people come out happy, with no regrets...that is what makes a threesome truly successful.