Eye Tricks: Communicating With Your Eyes

Eye tricks? It sounds a little ridiculous, I know, but if you pay attention for a moment, you might learn something. There are social scientists all over the world who spend all of their time dissecting the secrets of human communication. What do we tell each other when we don't say a word? How does our body language affect our relationships with others? The results of these studies are rather fascinating, and can lend credence to the supposition that we communicate more with our bodies than with our words.

The eyes are one of our most effective tools in communicating our needs and desires to others. What can you do with your eyes? More on that in a moment. First, let's look at what you can tell by watching a persons eyes.

By watching what they are watching, you can learn a lot about people. What kind of women does a man look at? Does he pay any attention to the game on the TV? Note whether he seems bored or interested as he looks at different things. Making eye contact with someone else sends the message that you are listening intently, and that you truly care about what they are saying. Looking around and at other things tells them that you couldn't care less.

You can tell what people's minds are doing when they are thinking or asked to remember something, according to neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) practitioners. This following is true for most right handed people (reverse all this for left-handed people): As you face them, and their eyes go...

Up and to the right - They are remembering a pictoral image.

Up and to the left - They are constructing a visual image.

To the right - They are remembering sounds or conversations.

To the left - The are constructing sounds or conversations.

Down and to the right - They are experiencing an internal dialogue.

Down and to the left - They are accessing kinesthetic feelings, tastes and smells.

Eye Tricks And The Opposite Sex

A person's pupils get bigger when they are aroused, interested, or receptive. If you look deeply into his or her eyes and see those pupils growing large - that is positive feedback for you.. Consistently large pupils (unless it's just dark) mean a person is favorably receptive to what they see.

It isn't just what you see, though, but what you imagine, as well. Try an experiment to understand how immediate this phenomenon can take effect. Look in the mirror at your own eyes. As you stare at your reflection, imagine a sexy man or woman you are attracted to - in whatever way would turn you on.

You'll see that your pupils get larger in just seconds. In fact, if you love to go bowling or play golf, they may get big just thinking about playing a game. The effects are not necessarily limited to sexual attraction, though those reactions are usually the strongest. Imagining anything that visually gives you pleasure can create a similar effect.

You'll find that you can quickly train yourself to change your pupil size at will. Just find a mental image or two that gets them really big, and use these as necessary. Look at a light briefly when you want to shrink your pupils back down. Now, how do you use this eye trick?

First, understand that we all unconsciously use little clues like pupil size as we interact with people. We are affected by people's body language even when we haven't yet learned to identify it. There are reasons why we are attracted to a person, even when we don't know what those reasons are.

In other words - the person in front of you will unconsciously pick upon your enlarging pupils. They will unconsciously take this to mean that you like them, and for many people, this will make them like you more. By enlarging your pupils at will, you can effectively establish rapport more quickly. This is one of the easier subliminal eye tricks.