Factors That Make a Child Become Bully

There are many kids who are victims of bullying. Bully kids are headaches to parents and teachers. Do we realize why a child becomes bully? I think, we usually don't. Some adults encouraged kids to become bully by applauding them when they tease other kids and make their victims miserable. There are older kids who have fun making the younger kids upset or cry. It is very stressful for the younger and weaker kids to suffer from the assault of the older and bully kids. Why do kids become bully? Well, some said this depends upon the training they have in the home and it sounds true but there are other reasons why a child becomes bully.

Let's try to look into these common factors that make a child become bully.

Home Influences.

The child's first education starts at home. Everything he sees is an example for him to follow. If the adults in the home are poor role models, they are the contributing factors to the kid's bullying behavior. Sometimes, older kids and other adults in the home are fond of teasing and making fun with the younger ones. They are enjoying when the younger kids are upset and cried. I have seen this many times in my environment which I think not a good practice. The adults influence has a great impact to the character building of younger children. When these younger ones will be with other kids, they will do the same as what they have seen at home. Home influences play a vital role to the child's well being. Teasing and making the younger kids irritated are forms of bullying
that adults don't realize they are modeling these to the younger kids.

The Desire to be Popular

Almost every child wants popularity. Children who are not talented and has no exceptional abilities are struggling hard to become popular. The desire for acceptance by their peers drive them to do something in order to be recognized. Bullying is one option they would do to catch the attention of others. How they would do it?..They would try themselves to be funny by making jokes that offend others. I have a cousin when he was young, he was so popular of making fun to others young and old he make fun of them. Some people were entertained but most were irritated and offended. Obviously, he did this for popularity and he made it. He was a very popular bully.

Revenge

Some kids become bully because of revenge. They themselves are victims of bullying and they want to get even. The kids who are victims of bullying would do the same thing to the younger siblings or younger friends of the one who did it to them. The sad thing is that, the young victims were innocent but they were the ones who suffered. Needless to say, parents and other adults should properly guide the children on how to respect the feelings and emotions of others so that bullying will be prevented. We can help kids who are in this situation by giving them proper advice.

Rejection /aggressive kids

Rejection also is another factor that makes a child become bully specially for the aggressive kids. Kids who are bold and aggressive don't want to be rejected by peers. They want to belong to a group and when no body wants them, they will resort to bullying. They will start a fight or threat others when they will not be given chance to join in a group. Aggressive kids would never accept rejection. Being rejected is humiliating to these kids, this would hurt their pride and make them angry. So then, bullying starts. The most common target of bullying are the young and weaker kids and also the meek and lowly. But If kids are properly guided by parents and other adults to be kind and understanding to others, bullying would be prevented.

Jealousy

This is another factor also that makes a child become bully. Kids tend to be jealous when parents and other adults displayed favoritism in treating their children. Most often, the older kids are left unattended. The parents give too much attention to the younger kids and the older ones were out of the picture. This made the older kids jealous and the bullying starts. They will become hard to their younger siblings, very impatient and inconsiderate with them. They would make things to irritate the younger ones because of jealousy. This could happen also in school. Teachers play favoritism in class by showing special treatment to the kids they liked and give less importance to those who are trying hard to be likable. With this, jealousy creeps in and bullying starts.

Influence from Media/Movies

Some kids become bully due to the influence from movies and other media presentation. They find it interesting to try. Parents and other adults should guide the children on what stuff they are going to watch. Kids should not be allowed to watch violent characters in movies, oppressive behavior and any other situations that are offending and hurting to others. Kids are very curious to try things they have seen. Parents must be concerned on this matter. If kids are properly guided it would save them from bad influence.