Factors in Gaining Self Confidence and Self Esteem

While the process of having self-confidence starts in childhood, sometimes because of critical or unsupportive parents the self-esteem of a child can be hindered and so that person grows up without much self-confidence.

The good news is that self-confidence and self-esteem are easily nurtured and repaired. This means that as an adult we can overcome the hardships of childhood and become better people that we like. We can still gain self-confidence through determination.

A little support

Something that you have to give to yourself is some support. Listen to your own self talk. We all have self talk, where we tell ourselves things especially when no one else is around. What do you say to yourself? If you are criticizing yourself, you need to stop, ask yourself why are you criticizing you, and then force yourself to start being supportive of yourself.

That may sound a bit on the far out side of things, but it holds true; that your self-esteem, is controlled by you. Start affirming yourself, when you make a mistake remind yourself that is was an opportunity to learn, not a world ending event.

Give yourself support, and accept yourself as human, because you live there will be many wonderful things that happen on this earth because of you. Love yourself, and accept that you may not be perfect all the time, but you are still yourself all the time. This will instill in yourself some self-confidence.

One thing leads to another

If you have an ability you are capable of raising your self-confidence, once you raise your self-confidence your self-esteem will grow. As your self-esteem grows your self-confidence grows, and this raises your self-esteem, that raises your self-confidence, that raises your self-esteem. A never ending cycle of improvement.

Look at yourself, your inner self, what are your strengths? Find what you can do, what skill you may have that you can use. If you do not think you have a skill, think again. Can you cook for yourself, can you wash your own clothes, clean your own house, mow your own yard? Those are skills that you can use now, you do not have to be a rocket surgeon to develop self-confidence.

Use the skills you have to do a good job at whatever you do. Do not worry about other people, what do they care if you mow your yard left to right instead of top to bottom, or right to left? It is your yard, and it will look better than before because you did it your way.

Concentrate on the things you have

Therefore, it is with all things that you do, do the best you can with what you have, and your self-confidence will appear, as you soon realize that you can do something without having to have permission from others to do it. Celebrate your life, it is your life to live, nobody can live your life for you. If I take a shower do you smell better? So you see it is your life, you can live it the way you want.

Look for things that make you feel good about yourself, photos of you, your friends, books that you like, the color of an object, the smell of a flower. These things make you feel good. Whenever you make a mistake, and we all do, just remember one of those things that makes you feel good and keep going.

This will give you more self-confidence to do other things in life. The more you do the more you accomplish and then your self-esteem blossoms, you love and accept yourself, because you have the self-confidence.

You can be what you will to be, you can do and be anything you choose to. It is your life to live.

Be Blessed

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