Falling in Love at First Sight Vs. Growing in Love

Love is a wonderful and a beautiful gift one can ever have, or give away freely. Its glow shines across people of different backgrounds and ages. Its power has brought about healing to those who are in pain, and has united millions previously separated for various reasons.

Falling in love, however remains to be a mystery. It makes me wonder, what is love? This question has puzzled many, yet, irrespective of its product, or evidence if you may, many do not understand how it works. As a result, it also has become a subject of misinterpretation and misuse. On one hand, I have heard and seen couples fall in love at the first sight, or as they claim to have, and a good number grow in that love, while the majority fall out of love. On the other, I have seen people meet, and perhaps spend a long time as acquaintances or friends, and eventually get involved in love. Some grow in love, while others eventually fall out of it. Falling in love at first sight, is however quite understandable, after all, it is the beauty displayed in the physical element of an individual; either facial beauty, dressing, body curves, or even a combination of all factors, captures your attention and attracts you to that individual. You then fall in love with that very first sight. Couples, who grow in love, may or may not have gone through the initial physical attraction, but with everyday activities and events, they get to learn each other and take not of values, characters as well as presentations, that draw them close and closer and eventual marriage.

A marriage counselor, in a seminar in Birmingham, Alabama, noted that, couples who fall in love at the first sight do not care where they fall. Most often, the fall is so hard, that they eventually fall through and out. He went on to say that, Falling in love at the first sight does not guarantee you a happy relationship thereafter. Yet, guided by the blindness of the emotion many rush to conclude that they were meant for each other, and enter into vows that bind them together. When the emotional euphoria is finally over, and reality strikes, the tearing of each other begins. Comparing the relationships of people who fell in love at the first sight, to people who met and allowed room and time to grow in love, it is evident that those who grow in love equip themselves adequately for the challenges of a shared life. They also survive longer in relationships, and they display higher maturity levels. Of course, this puts a spotlight to the young and restless generation.