Family Memebers of Addicts Need Help Too

Dealing with a family member who is a drug addict or alcohol abuser is difficult. Trying to be the one who handles crisis, organizes family interventions plans treatment for the loved one, and provide support can take its emotional toil. You might have felt as if you have to be in charge. On top of all this may be guilt feelings. You may think what else could I have done, did I in some way cause this, and will life ever return to normal. The result is that the you might find yourself in need of mental counseling and assistance. After all, a person can only handle so much stress and negative. Experts suggest that caregivers not forget themselves. Taking care of you is allowed. A few suggestions include:

1. Get away from the situation. Pack up and treat yourself to a weekend away. Once the addict is receiving the help they need, plan a short vacation. While away, think of things besides the current negative situation.

2. Enjoy the simple pleasures. Enjoy that cup of coffee, or time alone on the porch swing, or walk with the dog. Whatever brings you joy and peace; add it to your daily routine. Chances are, taking care of your loved one has replaced many of your favorite activities.

3. Rely on spiritual support. Advising your preacher, priest or rabbi can help some people. Religious clergy are held to confidentiality standards, so they will not announce your situation to the church. The clergy member can provide religious support, suggestions for dealing with the crisis, and emotional support.

4. Relax. What bring you relaxation differs from someone else. Whatever works for you to calm nerves, do it. Being selfish is OK. Take that long shower, drink a cup of tea, or meditate. Find what works to relax and calm you.

5. Go to the doctor. If you cannot sleep due to stress, let your doctor know. Accepting short-term medication for sleep or stress is acceptable. If you find yourself depressed, temporary anti depressants are available.

Some people find that despite their efforts to return to normal and relax, they are still anxious and depressed. Counselors and therapists are there for families of addicts. Check on local Alanon or Naranon support groups. Knowing that you are not alone can help. Whatever you do, remember do think of yourself. Chances are, you have not thought about your own needs in some time. You are helping yourself and your loved one. They still need you for support and the best way to provide the assistance is to remember to take care of yourself too.