Feel Positive in Yourself and Get Over Your Hurt

When people hurt us, a natural sense of isolation begins to occur. Sometimes there are people that continue to make you miserable and they criticize you, humiliate you, abuse you, and generally make you feel bad. Ultimately, you begin to ignore them and look for an escape, but the feelings stay with you. Common advice is to be positive, but how can you forgive and forget when you begin to feel negatively about yourself and people around you?

Where we focus is the problem. When trying to get over a hurtful situation, we tend to focus on that issue and think of nothing else. What one needs to do is widen their focus and remember that there are many other things in life. There are family members, friends, children, etc.

When religiously inclined people pray to God and ask for strength and tolerance they actually believe that they lack it. The focus becomes centered on their misery and it becomes reinforced in their mind.

Whether you are religious or not, you may be able to relate to the experience. To keep with the religious example, when Jesus died on the cross, he did not pray for himself. Instead, he prayed for his crucifiers stating forgive them for they know not what they are doing.

Why is this? You are not the one that should be pitied. The person who hurt you is. They have lost friendship with you by their own action, which makes them one-step closer to loneliness. As you begin to realize what your antagonist lost by hurting you, you will begin to feel badly for them. Quite the turn around. Positive thinking includes believing in you. When someone hurts you, you must allow yourself to believe they just do not know what they are doing.

Your negativity fades and you start feeling positive. Your misery will disappear, and you begin to feel good about yourself again. Positive belief and positive suggestion in yourself will allow you to heal your hurts that much quicker. Besides, who wants such a negative person in their life anyway?

Sometimes the person that hurt you may not have intended it so. The choice must be yours to make if you feel that it was an occurrence that will not be repeated. Nevertheless, being positive about yourself now will create a thicker skin tomorrow. Your positive outlook will show in the confidence that grows within you that you can handle yourself the next time someone intentionally hurts you.