Females: Use Your Senses to Achieve Orgasm

There's a theory floating out there that the way to please your lover is through pleasing yourself.

Who are we to argue, especially around the holiday season? After all, who knows better what you like, than you?

So in honor of helping you and your mate have a rousing end to the year, let's talk about your O. No other letter in the alphabet is as highly recognizable or fraught with sexual innuendo.

My O? You say. What about my partner's O?

While the focus on our personal achievement of orgasm may seem like a self-centric topic, it's really not. Let's get back to our original theory and consider these two viable points:

1) Most partners derive a great deal of satisfaction in knowing their mate reaches orgasm while engaged in a sexual encounter with them.

So, you owe it to your partner to do so.

2) When your needs and desires are met, you in turn will be a happier and more eager participant.

So really, you owe it to yourself and your partner to place some focus on your own orgasmic quotient.

Which leads to... it will be a heck of a holiday present for all involved!

Now, are you ready to get to O?

The following suggestions aren't the only ways to help get you there, nor are they fool-proof guarantees, but trying them out should at a minimum, provide some pampering and some fun!

The Six Senses of O

On your way to O, start off by taking care of your basic needs and indulging in some "me" time with some sensual sensory enhancements.

Most people generally think only of the sexual organs or prime stimulatory body zones, like the neck and nipples, when starting towards achieving an O. These are the obvious choices and will certainly be focal points for you. However, engaging your basic five senses will take things a step further. Getting your whole person- mind, body and soul involved can make the difference between "O" and "O- YES!"

You don't have to try to cram all these sensory stimuli into your O time, but certainly, one or two may be combined for an even better experience.

SMELL- Burn candles or incense, take a bubble bath, or try a new perfume. Use a traditionally erotic scent like Jasmine or one that appeals to your sultry side. Heck, even test out your new air freshener - sometimes the simplest pleasures can enhance your pleasure zones.

TASTE- Indulge in some fancy chocolates or a glass of your favorite wine. Pleasure your taste buds and the rest will follow.

Try using some flavorful oils or lubricants in your O sessions too- with or without a partner, these can be a fun indulgence. Better yet, see if you can find some tasty warming lubricants for double the fun. Not to mention, vaginal dryness can sometimes inhibit your path to O, whether they are flavored or not, having a lubricant handy is always a good idea.

SEE- Check out a good erotic book to help get you started. Try reading it aloud. Try reading it aloud to your partner too for double stimulation. Find a movie that revs you up, no shame in adding some visuals and your partner will enjoy too if you have them join you for a sexy movie date.

Also consider dimming the lights or using candlelit to create a mood. Low-lighting may aid in lulling you into a comfortable state of mind.

HEAR- Compile a CD with your favorite love songs or high voltage rock to suite whatever mood you'd like to create. Perhaps, savor the silence of your home while the kids are asleep or the neighborhood quiet. Maybe listen to a relaxation tape. Whatever you choose, be sure it is pleasing to your ears and helps sooth your mood.

TOUCH- Try a little personal massage or better yet, involve your partner and try out some fun massage techniques. Fix your space with luxurious items you enjoy touching such as velvet pillows, silk sheets, flannel comforters, new carpet, fluffy bath towels, and maybe even some stones or crystals with interesting textures. And, of course, a variety of toys are always fun to have around too.

SIXTH SENSE- The dictionary may define this to be something along the lines of: a power of perception seemingly independent of the five senses or keen intuition. We are going to liberally define the term, for purposes of this article, as your spiritual or holistic needs. The sense of the mind and the heart.

To be sure this sense is copasetic with your search for O, it needs to be nurtured too. Being in harmony with your mental and emotional needs is important to your overall health and thereby, important to your sexual health and enjoyment.

If you are stressed, take some time out. Dealing with health concerns? Be sure your body has the nourishment, treatment, and rest it requires. Fighting with your partner? Try to resolve your issues or possibly find outside council. Taking care of this sense and indulging its needs is really taking care of your self. There's no mystery or secret trick other than to place a priority on all the parts of you and see to it your mental and emotional needs are taken care of to the best of your ability.

Okay, so you still want a few ideas? How about reading a self-help book or listening to an audio CD? Take time out for prayer or meditation. Write your lover a love note, or even write yourself one! Yes you. It's important to have a love relationship with you too.

Snuggle your kids. Stop to admire the way the sun brightens the sky. Take a kayaking class. Scrapbook. Chat with your friends. By all means, find some ways to cater to your Sixth Sense.

The ideas are limitless. Focus on each sense, think about what you enjoy most in each category and incorporate them not only into your sexual "me" time, but your every day life. Make every day a road to O.

Learn More on How to Get to O

Understanding the inner and outer workings of your body may help you with your quest for O's. Knowing where to apply pressure and what triggers your body to respond is enlightening. Here are some pointers to and places to further your O education:

The definition of and encyclopedia type information can be found at Wikipedia http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Orgasm and a pretty good article on what an orgasm is can be found at http://www.coolnurse.com/orgasm_female.htm

A good reference website with a quick guide on "How A Woman Achieves Orgasm" is http://www.lacremedamour.com/howachieve.htm

A book you might want to consider is "Five Minutes to Orgasm Every Time You Make Love" by Claire D. Hutchins. This is a high rated, well-designed guide on the subject.

The Amazon.com book store link is: http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/0966492439/002-9056176-7737632?v=glance

Kegel exercises, a technique used to strengthen the muscles in the pelvic area, have been know to help with orgasmic pleasure and have even been touting as aiding in increasing the intensity. Find out more information on how to properly perform this exercise at The Midwest Institute of Sexology http://www.mwsexual.com/readingroom/articles/kegel-exercises.htm

The elusive G-Spot is often brought up when talking about O's, especially O's gotten during sexual intercourse. Here's a fairy comprehensive article on this subject http://www.talksexwithsue.com/Gspot.html Another hot topic of O is masturbation, you'll find some information and technique tips here http://www.sexhealth.org/masturbation/female-masturbation.shtml

And...

On a serious note, around 46% of women struggle with reaching orgasms. If the suggestions above don't work for you and you need further help, consider talking to your gynecologist or a sexual therapist. Sometimes there are physical or psychological blocks getting in your way.

Don't be embarrassed to take charge of your body.

Getting to O, first and foremost, requires the attention of Y-O-U.

Hopefully the ideas presented in this article will lead you towards and enjoyable, cosmic O this season, or at least a wonderfully fun time getting there!