Finding Inner Peace During the Holidays

During the holidays, peace is a word that is often used. That peace, however, is often lost amidst the holiday rush to buy the perfect gift, throw the perfect party, and find that perfect family get-together that is free of dysfunction. People tend to eat too much, drink too much, and spend too much. None of these things will help a person find inner peace.

The key to finding inner peace is to remain true to yourself. Here are some tips to help you do that during the holiday season:

-Don't spend money that you don't have. If buying gifts for your friends and family is going to put you in an economic bind, find another way to give. Use your imagination and creative talents to come up with gifts that are less costly and more personal. Bake something. If you are crafty, make them something special. Offer them a service, such as a night of babysitting.

-If you don't enjoy hosting a party, why throw one? Not only will you be miserable and stressed out, your guests will pick up on it and won't enjoy themselves anyway. Perhaps you are more comfortable with having a few close friends over for a cookie or dessert exchange. On the other hand, if hosting parties is your forte, go all out and enjoy yourself. The key is to do what you are comfortable with. Don't do anything just to try and impress others.

-Take time for yourself. It is very important during the holidays to take time for yourself. Read a book. Go for a walk. Take a bubble bath. Attend a holiday church service. Listen to some Christmas music while you tidy up your house. If you enjoy baking, bake some holiday goodies.

-Don't be afraid to say "no". The holidays can be very demanding. Everyone wants to spend time with you...shopping, attending parties, visiting. Remember that it is perfectly fine for you to say "no". If you don't feel like doing something, it's okay.

Taking care of yourself during the holidays should be your first priority. Although the holiday season may be the "season of giving", there is nothing wrong with giving to yourself. Until you learn to give to yourself, you will never be able to truly give to others. If all you do is give and give to others without giving to yourself, eventually you will run out of anything to give. You will feel depleted and feel all used up.

If you are feeling a lack of peace during this holiday season, take the time to reflect on the reasons why. Do something to change it, and find that peace that is so essential to your well-being.