Finding My Work/Life Balance

You've probably heard the phrase, there's a thin line between love and hate. Well there's an even thinner line between work and life. How do you gain that balance? Is it even possible? Well, here's my story (and I'm sticking to it!).

My daughter joined our family when I was in one of the busiest positions of my career. I supervised 22 employees, spent at least nine hours a day at work, and then brought work home. I thought I would find that mysterious balance once I returned to work from my leave. But the assignments, challenges and demands I had left were still there when I returned. Motherhood was great, but where was that mysterious balance? It was nowhere to be found. It was then I realized I had to make a change.

I began to assess my skills and research other positions within my company. I found an ideal position that could utilize all of my experience and skills, but with a more predictable and relaxed pace. I began to find more of a balance. I could leave on time and I didn't have to take work home. I felt less stress and that resulted in a lighter, happier spirit for me. But a new position, alone, was not the complete answer. I still had to set boundaries and make choices about how I would spend my time. My priorities had changed and my actions needed to reflect that change.

Motherhood is a gift. Children are a blessing. Parenting is a responsibility. It's one that I took seriously, so my actions began to change. I cut back on my travel or brought my family along when I could. I said no to extra committees and optional assignments. I stopped coming in extra early and staying late. Yet I still felt as if that wasn't enough.

What is the right balance? Should it be 50/50? Is that really enough parenting time? If it's 60/40 home to work, are you being a good employee? Motherhood requires you to choose who gets the most and best of you. So perhaps balancing isn't the real issue. Perhaps it's an issue of choice.