First Date Etiquette

Want to make a good first impression? Here are a few first date don'ts.

1. Don't Appear Un-Kept

If you want to set the foundation for a second date, take pride in your appearance. Wear clean clothing and shoes. Chipped nail polish and dirt underneath the nails gives a bad impression. Bathe before the date, and maybe give yourself a few sprays of cologne or perfume. Before going inside to meet your date, take a last minute glance in the mirror. Check your teeth for traces of lipstick, and your nose for unwanted visitors.

2. Don't Talk about Previous Relationships

Your date may ask general questions about your past relationships. However, avoid divulging too much information, and never talk badly about old boyfriends or girlfriends. Constantly talking about a previous relationship can indicate an obsession, or reveal your error in the relationship.

3. Don't Talk about Yourself Too Much

People enjoy talking about themselves. In fact, if you want to break the ice and start a conversation with a person, ask simple questions about themselves. On the other hand, if you monopolize the conversation on the first date, and spend too much time talking about self, this can give off a wrong impression. You may appear self-absorb or arrogant. If your date asks a personal question, respond briefly and move on. For some people, all it takes is a simple question to propel them into a two-hour discussion about themselves.

4. Don't Tell Crude Jokes

Offensive jokes may amuse your friends, family, or co-workers. However, a first date is not the time or place to tell an offensive or stereotypical joke. These could include sexual jokes, racist jokes, etc. Furthermore, stay away from slang and profanity. There is nothing wrong with being yourself or candid on a first date. Yet, it is important to recognize acceptable and un-acceptable behavior. If you choose to take a chance and reveal your raw side, don't be surprise if your date isn't interested in a second rendezvous.

5. Don't Be Late

Be on time. If possible, arrive early. Some people do not like waiting on others. Running five or ten minutes late is not a big deal. On the other hand, if you arrive 30 minutes or an hour late, you've ruined the first impression. If your late arrival isn't followed with an apology or explanation, you can kiss a second date goodbye. To redeem yourself, you better have a sparkling personality.