First Date Tips

Sometimes your first date can be nerve wracking and cause anxiety. You may be thinking of so many things, like what to wear, what to say, what not to say and how to keep the conversation going. Here are a few first date tips for you to help make your date go smoother and better.

As far as clothes go, wear something that you feel comfortable in. Don't wear something that is too tight or something that doesn't fit you right. You don't want to be squirming around picking your wedgie or looking uncomfortable when you are with your date. You'll want to look comfortable and relaxed but yet attractive. You could always go to the store and pick up a new outfit for your first date so that you feel more confident.

Talk about positive things when you are on a date with someone for the first time. Don't complain about your noisy neighbors, the way your friend does her hair or anything else. Keep complaining to a minimum. Say something nice to your date that will make him/her feel more comfortable, such as, "I like your necklace" or "Your shirt looks nice."

Pay attention to what your date has to say. Listen like there is no one or nothing else around. Show them that you are a good listener and care about what they have to say.

A good idea for a first date might not be a restaurant. Sometimes people get nervous eating in front of someone they are really attracted to and not only that, you may end up in awkward silence. If you are okay with going out to eat, then try to go some place low key incase the date doesn't turn out like you expected. This way one of you won't be footing an expensive bill for a date that didn't work out. Another alternative might be going bowling, miniature golfing, a comedy club or something fun to get you both laughing and involved. You can still talk and get to know each other by doing these activities but there won't be as much pressure to talk like there would be if you were in a restaurant, staring at each other face to face.

If you want to know if you should kiss on the first date, that is entirely up to you. There is no right or wrong answer to this. Follow your instincts. If you are a modest person, a kiss on the cheek or on the lips is fine. If you plan on going on another date with this person, try to keep the physical contact to just a kiss. This way you can build up the tension between the two of you and keep each other wanting more.

Ask your date questions about themselves to keep the conversation flowing. Questions like "What is your favorite movie?" or "What do you like doing for fun?" are a couple questions you could ask.

Make sure to thank your date for spending time with you and especially if they've paid for you or picked you up. You should always be polite. Do not just be polite to your date, but be polite to others that you see in public, such as your waiter/waitress or the person behind the ticket booth at the movie theatre. Show them that you are respectful to others as well.

Keep your breath fresh incase you do decide to go for that kiss. Try to carry some gum or mints with you, if you can. You don't want your breath to smell like onions from the hoagie you ate for lunch that day.

Most of all, try to be relaxed and enjoy yourself. Even if you are nervous, I'm sure that by the middle of the date, your nerves will be settled down more and you can start focusing on having a good time.