First Dates: The First Kiss

On a first date, the question of the first kiss often springs to mind. Who should make the first move? What kind of kiss should it be? Should there even be a kiss at the end of the first date? Having these questions can put unnecessary strain on a date and can sometimes ruin the fun of it all. In order to answer these questions, the best thing you can do is base every decision on your own feelings at the time.

Should there be a kiss at the end of the first date?

You should never feel pressured to kiss at the end of a first date just because you have had dinner or a movie with someone. To avoid extreme awkwardness, go for a kiss on the cheek and hope that is enough of a sign that you aren't ready for anything more. If your date still tries to kiss you anyway, you may be forced to politely decline but it shouldn't come to that. Most people will be able to read your body language.

Who should make the first move?

As a woman, it would be easy to say that the man should make the first move. It's more romantic, right? From an old fashioned point of view, the man taking the lead is preferable but it doesn't have to be this way. In fact, men like nothing more than for a woman to take the initiative and go in for the first kiss. Not all men are as confident as they appear, and sometimes they need a clue that their date really likes them.

What kind of kiss should it be?

This sounds like a tough decision. Should you go for a soft kiss so as not to seem to overbearing? Or should you really go for it and let your date know how much you like them? It's all about the mood. The tone of your evening should set the tone of the kiss. If it has been pleasant, romantic and sweet the kiss should reflect that. However, if you have had a date filled with suggestion, flirting and teasing you are free to make the first kiss a little more daring. It's important to note that if you find it hard to tell what your date is feeling, avoid the kiss completely or make it gentle. If they want more, they will let you know!

The truth is, a first kiss has no set rules for everyone, it is very much down to the individuals involved. Stressing about it is probably the quickest way to ensure that you don't get a kiss at all, so stay calm. Enjoy the excitement of the date and always do only what feels comfortable!