Five Personality Traits that Guys Avoid in Women

When it comes to dating and relationships, nothing is a deal breaker to both guys and girls faster than a bad personality. As a guy who has played the field and have met women from all background, education and social class, the biggest turnoff for me has been someone with a poor personality. In this article, we will examine five personality traits that guys cannot stand, which should help you identify if you are making these common pitfalls. I do understand that guys make the same mistakes, therefore, these personality traits apply to them as well.

Negativity

Are you constantly looking at the glass as half-empty instead of half-full and always finding the bad in every little thing? I went on a date once with this one girl during my early 20's, she was smart, attractive and I thought she had it all together. However, the date consisted of her criticizing what people were wearing, what cars they drove and how dumb other people could be. The comments came across as very conceited and half-baked as she did not personally know any of the people she was speaking of. Men and women do not care so much about material wealth as much as someone's emotional wealth. The date ended and I never spoke to her again. This is a common personality trait that shows someone's overall maturity, and is avoided like the plague by both sexes.

Rudeness

Are you rude to the waiter, talk down to the store employees and have a sense of entitlement? I come from a wealthy district where this personality trait is far too common. From this personality trait, guys get the feeling that if they were in the same position as the persons that she is speaking down to, that she would treat us the same way if given the chance. Unfortunately, this is not flattering and is a big turnoff and embarrassment for any guy.

Needy

The feeling that someone wants and cares about you is one of the greatest feelings that can come from a relationship. However, do you come across as desperate or needy to your boyfriend? Not being comfortable with yourself or not thinking for yourself are a huge turnoff and come across easily in a needy personality. Make your man feel important, but do not obsess and make him think that if he left you would not be able to function.

Too Independent

The independent women is a great person to date, she is self reliant and as is treated like an equal in any relationship. Guys look for this trait and admire it immensely. However, are you too independent for your own good? Somewhere deep down in our hardwiring we feel the need to fix problems and be there for our better half. However, if you never give us the chance to be there for you, then it is tough for the relationship to flourish. Women that show their vulnerability (this goes for men too) in certain circumstances appear more human, and it makes us feel like we are important. Do not think you are always right and do not need our support, it is a turnoff and feels more like a booty call than a relationship.

Insecurity

Insecurity is a common problem in the dating world for both sexes. It can be a big turnoff and is a direct contrast to the women who is too independent for a relationship. Insecurity comes across as a personality trait when it starts interfering with your confidence level and interactions with your lover. I dated this one girl for a brief period and I could not tell she had insecurity issues in the beginning. However, after a few weeks the insecurity was apparent in her personality. She would agree with everything and every topic I presented in conversation, and would never offer her own ideas. From my experience, I prefer women that challenge my ideologies because it gives me a different perspective and makes for a great intellectual conversation.