Five Points About Control

The numbers game, it begins with the thought that you might not read this if it said, three, or, six, because five is the number you are looking for; so you tell me, is that presumption intelligent? Five points about control, kind of begs the question, control of what, doesn't it? As you know if you've read any of my other writings, we often discuss control of business, clients, grants, making money, others, relationships or yourself, so that kind of narrows it down a bit doesn't it? Curious yet as to which path we're going to do down? What if we didn't go down a specific path, what if we just talked about control of any situation, at any time, with anyone in any way? Must be pretty powerful, so, are you curious enough to keep reading? Lesson one on appeal, curiosity, playing to the person's natural innate want to know.

We round first base heading for second base and the pressure on the home run, all the bases, increases, so has your pace of reading. Control can be let loose, this is important to understand if you are to be able to outline what control is it's very useful to know what it isn't. Control can be released and the power to move and decide and change course given over to some other mechanism. Take the rudder of a boat, when it is in the water, it steers the ship, if it brakes, then a paddle can be inserted into a holder and it can take over steering the ship. Control can be released, and it can be restored. Second point, nothing is final until you determine that it is final.

Heading for third base we begin to feel the lungs wanting more air, the legs are growing tired and we wonder if the ball is going to get there first. Control has issues built into it, if you are going to control anything you have to be willing to know about the pain which will come at you, you can count on it, without it, control isn't present nor an issue. Control implies the ability to withstand or stave off pain, but the pain of life, the pain of circumstance, the pain of denial, the pain of acceptance, the pain of change all imply the presence of the force which is control. Third point is to notice that pain.

We're past third heading for the homeroom, now the legs are pumping from a place of desire, a home run, a point, scoring, it's what we care about, it's winning! Winning is what control brings about, the element of time is the factor of the distance between where you start; first base, and where you end up, home plate. All the pain in between, all the challenge, all the potential to fall or trip or go to slow; every element of the process and force going against you is taken away when you win. Fourth point of control is that winning has to be relished.

You head for the dug out and the team mates who are all cheering you, clapping you on the back, telling you that you are "the one," "the man," or other such congratulations. This adulation is time that brings your whole being up, watch people waiting on a plane, waiting for someone to step off that plane and come to them, they have the faces of tension, lips slightly curled down or straight out, the smile if present is a tense one, and they wait. As the passengers deplane watch them, they wait, and with each passenger who passes them, a little more tension grows, until finally, the one they waiting for, and their face does what? That's right, it lights up, recognition. Fifth element is that recognition is important to you; understand that and you will know about control. Use recognition to you, about you, and about others and you will find control in that process.

Five generic statements about control, of what value to you, depends upon how you choose to take them in and make them part of what your life is about. What you use what you come to know from our brief time together is what determines whether what you read has helped you when it comes to control. Dana happily answers e-mail at: drichard1@hotmail.com and can also be reached through his portal: http://adreamcareer.com where counseling and opportunity meet those who want control.