Five Signs He is Leading You On

Kyra Lennon
Figuring out what is going on inside a man's head is no easy task. Even if you ask, they rarely have an answer for their confusing behavior. Some men are simply not good at discussing their feelings, but there are others who know exactly what they are doing by keeping you guessing. If you are having a hard time deciding whether or not he is worth your time and need some help reading his signals, there are a few easy to spot signs he is leading you on.

Five Signs He Is Leading You On

1. He never calls when he says he will

Men aren't renowned for sticking to their promises where phone calls are concerned, however if he is really interested, he will make the effort. The occasional late or forgotten call is certainly forgivable, but if it happens on a regular basis it is a strong sign that he is leading you on. Be particularly cautious if he only calls when he wants sex as that may well be all he ever wants from you.

2. He still flirts with other women

Flirting can be a bit of a grey area in relationships. Some women think it's okay to flirt as long as it goes no further, while others consider it a form of cheating. Whichever side of the argument you fall on, if he is flirting with other women often, it is disrespectful - particularly when the relationship is very new and you are already unsure where you stand. You should never let a man trigger feelings of insecurity - if he does, he might not be the one for you.

3. He doesn't want you to meet his friends

If a guy refuses to let you meet his friends even though he has met yours, it is a good sign that he isn't nearly as committed to you as you might hope. Even if he is charming and says all the right things, when he keeps you away from his friends he is subtly indicating that he doesn't plan to get serious with you.

4. He disappears for long periods of time before getting in touch

A man who takes you on a fantastic date, then vanishes for a few weeks then comes back as if he was never gone is definitely showing signs that he is leading you on. There are reasonable explanations for absences sometimes so don't be too quick to dump him. But if it happens after every date, you should reconsider whether or not you want to see him again. Perhaps he is married, dating other women or simply using you for a good time whenever he feels like it. Whatever the reason, if his disappearances continue, he probably isn't worth waiting around for.

5. Your friends tell you he is leading you on

Listening to your friends isn't always the right thing to do but most of the time they only have your best interests at heart. If they think he is leading you on, they are probably right. It is easier to view a relationship from the outside than the inside and there is a good chance they are seeing something that you can't.

Even more important than all of these signs he could be leading you on are your own feelings. Deep down, you will know whether or not he is the real thing or just looking for a bit of fun. If you think he is not taking you seriously enough, perhaps it is better to let him go before you become too attached.

Published by Kyra Lennon - Featured Contributor in Arts & Entertainment, Travel and Lifestyle

Kyra Lennon has been writing for most of her life. Alongside working on her first full length novel, Kyra has published online content with a focus on dating and relationships, entertainment and travel. A...  View profile

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  • Tony Payne2/17/2011

    Good advice. If someone doesn't want you to meet their family and friends, then they don't want them to know about you. That either means that they are embarrassed to be associated with you, or more likely that they have a good reason for others not knowing, like they are seeing someone else or even married.

  • Tiffany Bailey2/16/2011

    Yes, great points! The "not meeting his friends" is a huge sign of trouble.

  • R. K. LoBello2/16/2011

    You make some great points, Karen.

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