Five Steps to Avoiding a Bad Relationship

A match made in heaven is what you think of that person and you, at first. But after a month, it seems like everything has went downhill; you start having doubts whether or not they are right for you, or if you really like them at all. Perhaps you didn't take the time to really get to know one another, could that be it?

Well, I have composed a few steps to take that may help avoid entering into a bad relationship:

First Step is to ask questions about this person's life; get to know what they were like before they met you. The worst thing ever is to later find out that you are dating a serial killer. Now, when you ask these questions, be sure to ask things that you may not want to discover; this way you'll be headed off from the start.

Second Step is to take it for what it is. Just because that person seems like a heaven sent, doesn't actually mean that they are. People are known for showing their 'good' side in the beginnings. Another reason that you 'take it as it is' is because you may feel the chemistry, but are not truly ready to commit. Allow time to get to know one another without expectations.

Third Step is not to rush things; rushing things can cause you to move too fast, and we all know what happens then. When you move too fast, you lose track of what's important-you getting to know a person. Taking your time and interacting within the relationship one day at a time, may ensure a smooth transition; you never know what may have happened in this person's life before you. I know you wouldn't want a person to lash out on you because you remind them of their ex, or their past.

Fourth Step is not to cling. Being clingy isn't good for any relationship. Allow you and your mate personal space and time. If you are always together, on the phone talking, emailing or chatting online, you'll never have time to miss one another. Like the saying goes: "Absence makes the heart grow fonder", and if you allow this person some 'me' time, then in return you shall receive the same. Too much of anything isn't good, at least that's what clichés say.

Fifth Step is to be considerate of others. If you consider them, they'll consider you. Just because this person is a bit slow at turning you on, doesn't mean that they don't know how; it could be them trying to learn you. Give them a chance and opportunity to express themselves, and things should go a bit smoothly.

But above all, keep your lines of communication open, there's nothing better than being able to communicate. And that's with anybody! Happy Relationships!