Five Things a Woman Should Never Do when Courting a Man

For women who take relationships seriously and prefer courting to dating, there are some commonly accepted social practices among those who date that can easily be fallen into. Nowadays some people will think of nothing in spending the night with a member of the opposite gender, thinking that nothing can possibly happen, even after a few glasses of wine are drunk. There are precautions a woman can take during courtship so that she does not become a casualty of a man who may appear to be monogamous on the surface, but in reality wants to have his cake and eat it, too.

The first and most important thing a woman should do when courting a man is to do a background check on him. Finding out if the man is as available as he says he is, and not just lying to get into a relationship while he has a wife and children at home, will save any woman a lot of future trouble. Most background checks are inexpensive and can be done through searching local records online.

The second thing a woman wants to avoid doing during courtship is to not stay overnight at a man's house. Likewise, she must never invite him to her house for any reason for an overnight stay. Such a practice is too risky and can very well end up in the woman being the result of a one-night-stand when the man disappears and is nowhere to be found when she discovers she is pregnant and all alone. One-night-stands do not make nor consummate a relationship.

The third thing that you want to avoid doing is cooking meals for him during courtship. Some women are so anxious to have a man, that they want to cook for him, even though they are not married to him. Cooking meals is fine once you are married to the man. There are in fact men out there who like to travel from woman to woman, comparing not only how good they are in bed, but also compare their cooking. If a man suddenly leaves a woman he is dating, she will wonder if her cooking simply was not good enough, or if there is something else wrong with the man.

The fourth thing a woman should never do is get too emotionally involved with a man during courtship. Emotional involvement usually leads to sex, and sex has no place in courtship. If a man cannot seriously consider you as a potential wife, he should not be asking you to have sex with him. Neither should you ask for sex as a "proof" of his love. Love and sex remain mutually exclusive. Serious consideration for marriage is what is important in a relationship, not sex, since sex never "cements" relationships; rather, it is simply proves that the reproductive system works.

The fifth and last thing a woman wants to avoid is cohabitation. While cohabitation is legal in 43 states (yes there are 7 states where cohabitation is illegal and punishable by law), the mere practice degrades women since it gives the male the upper hand in practically every situation, including sex. Consequently, women have to cook, clean, and provide sex for the man, all of which he gets are free. He is under no obligation to give her anything in return. In many cases, the woman also has to work to pay for the rent, utilities, food, and more. Should the cohabiting male get the woman pregnant, he is not bound by law to remain with her. Marriage protects women in so many ways, that modern women are not aware of this fact. Cohabitation uses women, and not in a good way. Therefore, cohabitation has no place in courtship.

http://articles.latimes.com/2001/aug/20/news/mn-36308