Five Times You Shouldn't Text Your Boyfriend

Make Sure He's Smiling When He Recieves Flirty Texts on His Phone

Linda Riggs
Texting is the way most couples stay in touch these days. It allows for private love notes and flirts during times when a phone call just is not an option. It works well for most couples because men love to know that their women are thinking about them. They also think about sex so many times during the course of a day that a frisky note might make them very happy at any given time.

The longer you are in a relationship, the easier it will be for you to know when your text messages will be welcome and when they will not. The beginning of any love relationship can be challenging. This can be especially true when it comes to knowing when you should or shouldn't text your new boyfriend.

I honestly believe that there are unique situations for each person and that makes it a bit harder to make a set of guidelines that will help everyone. With that in mind, I also believe that there are some definite times that texting should be put on hold. Young women often don't realize when they are too pushy or around too much. Here are five times that a girl should never text her new boyfriend.

Never Text Your Boyfriend When He Is Sleeping
You should love and care enough about your boyfriend to care about his health. It should be a top priority at all times. Even if you are sure that your man sleeps with his phone on vibrate or you think he might like to go to sleep knowing you are thinking about him, hold back.

Your man probably works hard and to be his best he needs to get an uninterrupted night of sleep. You may also think that it is sweet for him to wake up and find several text messages from you. The truth is, it is just something that he has to read when his eyes are barely awake. The best thing a new girlfriend can do is to let her boyfriend text her first each day. Sending back an enthusiastic message with hugs and kisses will make his day and he will be awake enough to appreciate it.

Never Text Your Man When He Is Spending Time With Family
Good men are not just born, they are brought up to be good men by families that care. Most of the things that you love about your new boyfriend are probably traits that he acquired through his family. It can be hard to pull yourself away from a new guy that you want to spend every minute with. It is also far too easy to stay in touch, even when your boyfriend needs to be giving his attention to his family.

If you know that your new boyfriend is spending some time with his parents or other family members, don't text him. Giving your man time and space to be with the family he loves, shows that you honor and respect your boyfriend and his family. Send him off with a short text saying to have fun and take his time with his family before he ever leaves. After that, don't touch the phone to text him until he phones you. Having trust and confidence in your man will rub off and he and his family will come to have those same feelings for you.

Never Text Your Boyfriend When He Is Out With His Male Friends
The younger you are the harder this will be for you. It is incredibly important to give your new man space and time to be with his male friends. He needs time alone with them and that time should never be interrupted by you. If you are insecure and find this terribly hard, get over it. You can't get over it fast enough.

If you want your boyfriend to find you attractive in every way, you have to have a shred of dignity and mental strength. Every man needs to have male friends that he can bond with and women need to give men the space to do just that. The moment that you try to undermine his male bonding time, you become a less attractive girlfriend in many ways.

When you find yourself missing your boyfriend or wondering what he is doing while he is out with the guys, remind yourself of how important it is to get over it. The best love relationships are built on trust and a true desire by each partner to help the other be all the best things they can be.

Never text your boyfriend while he is out with his friends. Instead, text him one time before he leaves and tell him to have fun. You might also want to add a few hugs and kisses. Let him have his fun and greet him with a smile when he comes home. Ask him nothing more than if he had a good time and you will have a happy man.

Never Text Your Man When He Is In A Meeting
This rule applies to any meeting of importance to your boyfriend. If he is meeting with doctors, a lawyer, or any other professional, you need to completely refrain from texting or calling. You should care that your boyfriend can carry himself with respect and dignity in any important situation. Receiving flirty text messages is completely inappropriate at these times and takes away some of that dignity.

Talk to your boyfriend about any issues that are important to him when he is comfortable talking about them. Let him know that you are always there for him to talk to. After that, give him the space to be a man. Let him take care of his business and allow him uninterrupted time to do just that.

Never Text Your Boyfriend During Meals
Your man needs to eat healthy foods and the right amounts of them. He needs to relax while he is eating so his body can properly digest the food. Being constantly made to pick up a phone and read text messages ruins the atmosphere and any relaxing that a nice meal can bring to your boyfriend.

You should want your man to be healthy and strong. If you love your boyfriend, caring about all the things that make him happy, healthy, and strong should be your top priority. Give him time to eat his meal in peace and he will surely be grateful.

All of these rules apply to new relationships for one simple reason. If you want the relationship to bloom and last, you have to care about the person you are in the relationship with. You need to treat them with respect and dignity. You need to have trust and faith in your boyfriend .

Send your new boyfriend text messages when you know he will be glad to get them. It's great to show affection and let him know you love him or are thinking about him. Just be sure to send the messages at appropriate times and you may even find yourself getting more messages from him than you would expect.

Published by Linda Riggs

Freelance writer. My hobbies include fishing, swimming, playing piano, crystal flute, and guitar.  View profile

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  • Maggs2/16/2011

    UM are you kidding me??? While maybe the tips themselves have SOME merit, the reasoning behind them are ridiculous. The reasoning is you want HIM to be happy and undisturbed by your needs. What about the woman? And all of these scenarious sound like a normal day for anyone, so just never text him til he texts you? Talk about setting women back! This sounds like a how-to for stepford wife wannabes with cell phones. What a shame.

  • Doug Clore7/1/2010

    I wish wish wish even a few young people would read these and follow them, but they won't. They are hopelessly addicted to ..., what's that, wait a minute I'm getting a text! (like it's going to be the queen of England or something!)

  • Catherine Dagger6/18/2010

    Good advice for young women. :-) Timing is important. Young women often just think "I want to contact him NOW" without thinking about the guy's point of view!

  • Jennifer Wagner6/14/2010

    This was great! I was in a poker tournament this weekend, and some poor guy kept getting text messages from his girlfriend. He was NOT happy about them one bit! :D

  • Karen Ellis6/12/2010

    A joy to read.

  • Jan Corn6/11/2010

    Great tips which should be common sense but some people lack common sense.

  • Jack Wellman6/11/2010

    Hey, your back!!! Good to always see you publishing. I think this is a must-forward for my tween soon to be teen (on June 30th).

  • Patti Walden6/9/2010

    Excellent tips!

  • Kathrine Lloyd6/7/2010

    Great tips.

  • Faye Fairley6/7/2010

    good article......I'm past all this too.

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