Flirting 101: Best Flirting Tips

While most people seek to meet someone special and build a lasting relationship, this is often easier said than done. Singles may observe couples and wonder their secret. There are certain people who seem always able to find a boyfriend or girlfriend, while others have a difficult time meeting people, or have long gaps between relationships. The key to meeting someone is simple. Because of varying personalities, some people have the tendency to stand on the sideline, which forces others to make the first move. Even though the passive approach may make one seem less desperate, these persons are handicapping themselves. Making the first move is always tough. Naturally, some women wait for guys to give signals, before offering feedback. However, some guys are just as nervous, and less apt to make initial eye contact or offer a smile. When two shy people decide to hold back their feelings, they miss out on a good thing.

Fortunately, there are ways to attract a person of the opposite sex without appearing too impulsive. Flirting is one of the quickest ways to get noticed. Of course, for this approach to work, it must be done properly. Some people have mastered the art of flirting, and have an amazing way of subtly grabbing the attention of a prospect. On the other hand, some people take flirting a little too far, which can be a turn-off. Rather than building a reputation as a party or social wallflower, be open to making the first move.

• Boost Self-Confidence: Someone once told me that self-confidence is controlled entirely by our own minds. In others words, if you feel lousy or have a low self-image, this will affect the way you act. Often times, shy or socially inept persons have low self-confidence. They may feel as if nobody likes them, or feel inadequate to hold their own in social settings. Persons who feel this way are less incline to meet new people. Furthermore, if approached, these persons may not contribute much to the conversation, and could come off as stuck-up or dull.

On the flip side, if you feel good about yourself, others will notice. The first step to boosting self-confidence is shifting your mindset. Even if you feel bad about yourself, this does not need to be revealed to the world. Rather than feeling inferior to others, view yourself as an equal. Once self-image approves, it becomes easier to talk to people. Simply maintaining good eye contact is a sign of a confident person.

• Look Approachable: Even if you are uncomfortable with approaching someone of the opposite sex, little things can attract other to you. For example, if hanging out with friends, and hoping to meet someone special, periodically smile or laugh. Avoid over-the-top, knee-slapping laughter. Believe it or not, but some people are turned off by annoyingly loud persons. Moreover, unnecessary loudness indicates a person looking for attention. Have fun, but be subtle. A little sophistication and mysteriousness goes a long way.

• Be Funny, Avoid Childish Silliness: Having a humorous personality is a great way to break the ice and meet someone. On the other hand, avoid juvenile silliness. While flirting, be relaxed. Don't force jokes. By doing so, you will sound corny and unappealing. Be natural. If the opportunity to crack a joke presents itself - go for it. If not, smile and enjoy a meaningful conversation.

• Body Language: Gestures is a great flirting technique. In fact, a little body language flirting can be enough to make another person want to approach you. Subtle movements such as licking lips, playing with hair, crossing legs, or leaning in toward the person is enough to captivate their attention. On the other hand, movements such as folding arms, drumming fingers, or tensing the body practically shouts, "NOT INTERESTED."