For Love or Money? An AC Experiment
Would you stay with someone just so you didn't have to work? Would you give up the true happiness and love a marriage is suppose to provide for money? What if your partner cheated on you on a regular basis, would you overlook this to have all the bills paid every month? What makes someone stay in a marriage that isn't working?
I decided to start asking everyone I came in contact with what their opinions were. Could they stay in a doomed marriage to be financially comfortable? Here are the questions I asked and some of the responses I have gotten.
For Love or Money: Why do you Stay Married?
What made you get married? Why do you stay married?
1.Love
2.Financial security
3.Convenience
4.Afraid of change
5.Religious beliefs
Feel free to answer the question in the comment section below. Maybe you are not married yet ,but have a long time partner you can use that to answer the question as well. Why do you stay in any type of relationship?
Here's two scenarios for you to consider. Which would you rather be involved in?
Scenario 1
You are married to a wonderful partner.They provide you with all the love and emotional support you could need. Things aren't always perfect but you are very happy. You live paycheck to paycheck and there really is not much left a month for extras. Some months are a struggle and you wonder if you will have enough to make it until the next .
Scenario 2
You are married to a partner where there is no communication and no one shows any sign of affection. You have suspected that your partner may be having an affair. You spend your time shopping and getting together with your friends. There is never any question if there will be enough money for the bills. There is always a lot left over. You don't have to need for anything.
Which of these scenarios would you choose? Could you live with no signs of affection? No communication between you and your partner? Do you need the closeness and emotional connection a marriage should have?
Many people I questioned said that they are not concerned with the financial aspects of the marriage. While they want to know they can pay the bills, they are not to concerned about any extras. They would rather have the special connection that a marriage is all about. For them showing their affection and being able to communicate tops having extra cash to spend.
The people that answered they would rather have financial security over love stated that they could live without the touching and talking. They would rather know that they don't have to spend day after day at a job they do not like. Some like the option of shopping whenever they feel like it ,and not having to worry about taking from the bill money.
Some of the ones who choose money over love said that they can get the physical attention they crave from sources outside of the marriage. They also said their partner would most likely do the same.
This is my opinion on the subject of love or money.
When choosing money over love I guess to me this seems like more of a business arrangement then a marriage. Why bother getting the marriage certificate to begin with? Well I guess the tax cuts would be a reason where money is concerned. My choice would always be love over money. I don't care if I didn't have a dime to my name. At least I would have someone that loves me for me and not my bank account. We are not rich, we live paycheck to paycheck, but we are happy. We can afford to pay the bills every month and put food on the table. We can afford for the occasional dinner out. We can't pick up and go shopping whenever we would like, but we can always cuddle up on the couch and enjoy each others company. We get by and that is happiness to me.
What about you, would you choose love over money?
Published by Heather Shockney
Heather is the mom to a daughter with Autism, ADHD, ODD, Mood-D/O-NOS,obsessive compulsive tendencies, and sensory issues. We are a cyber-schooling family.She writes for a variety of online venues. If you ha... View profile
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7 Comments
Post a Commentwell for me I am with a long term man, I would consider it marriage just without the official paper. We have no money, not even enough money so it certainly isn't about the bank account. :) Thanks for the interesting piece.
I've cohabitated for both, but never got married. I hear it's becomming more and more common for broke college sweathearts to become roommates to save money AND be all domestic together. My longest relationships survived on that rare combination of love and co-dependent poverty. I know that's not exactly what you meant by "money", but it was definitely a factor in staying in relationships past their expiration dates.
I choose love. LOve can get you through a lot!
I'd have to pick scenario 2. I loves me some shoes.
I too am in the first scenario and would chose loove over money any day. Though I have to wonder how many people are in Scenario 3 - where they have both LOVE and MONEY? I know of people who won't date someone unless they are "successful" and make good money. Interesting experiment.
I am also in the first scenario, and am obviously choosing love over money.
I know I am in the first scenerio and would not change that. Sure I would like to have more money, but that is something i can change by working harder. I can't make my husband talk more. Thanks God I don't have to worry about that. Hey will you contact me? I have some questions about clout and promoting my articles better. I need help!!!