Forced Relationships

Janet and her younger brothers didn't like their mother's new boyfriend from the start; he was always treating them bad and calling them bad names...he even use some profanity. One time when their mother was at work, Janet and her brothers had to defend themselves from the boyfriend when he came in drunk and started to hit her youngest brother with his shoe.

Every time they tried to tell their mother of the horrible things her boyfriend would do to them when she wasn't around, their mother got angry at them and told them that he was the only one who would accept her and them, and that they just had to deal with him, or leave.

There are so many recorded cases of child abuse, but not from the actual parents; many of these cases are from step parents, and/or lovers/mates or partners of the parents. This is a dilemma that definitely needs to be addressed. There has got to be a solution, but what and where is it? Let's hope that it doesn't come around too late; too late to save these innocent, uninformed children who are victims to these sort of abuse.

The abuse I'm speaking of isn't just about being abused, but who a child is being abused by. I say this loosely simply because we hear so often of children being forced into relationships that their parents get involved in. And it may be a special treat for your children to get along with your mate/partner/lover or friend, but it shouldn't be forced on the children. It's comforting to say that when you meet someone and want to start a relationship, then and only then, should a parent expose their children to their choice of a mate. Other than that, you may want to let things settle and see where the relationship is going before you throw this choice into the face of your children.

There are many points to support this article, but I only wish to touch on a few; just to get the ball rolling on how we force our relationships onto our children. Your children may not be the ones who have to deal with your mate; but in actuality, they are! Think about the interaction this person will be having with your children from day-to-day; think on whether or not you would truly want this person being around your children-this will also help in making a choice of who to date-Think about how well this person will go over once your children are exposed to them. A major and most important factor would be the past of this person: Get to know someone before you expose your children to them! You never know if someone has a past that will affect your children in a negative manner, and if that is the case: RUN!!!!