Forgive So You Can Be Happy

For many people this is a hard thing to do. Once you have been hurt by someone whom you thought you would share your life and all its pleasures with, well it seems as though happiness is no longer in your vocabulary. A majority of us have been through the whole "can't eat can't sleep" phase and we think at the time there is no way out but there is. Go ahead and have your moment. Cry, laugh, yell, even on occassion feel a little sympathy for them, get it out your system, and start the next process: Forgiveness. Sounds crazy I know, but while you are sitting around wollowing in your own self pity, the person who hurt you is out there having the time of his/her life, and probably not giving you a second thought.

I have always been the type of person to kill with kindess. Just because someone did not put my feelings into consideration does not mean that I have to return the favor. Two wrongs truly do not make a right. Letting go is a process it is not an overnight occurance. Friends and family are a good support system for and individual at this time. You will need to vent and get things off of your chest, talk about the good times as well as the situation that led to the end of the relationship. People come into our lives for a reason and in a moments notice that can go just as quickly as they came into our life.

Forgiveness in most cases is an extremely hard thing to do, and you can do so without having any type of communication with the individual. If you should see them in public it's ok to say hello, then go on with whatever it is you were doing. No need for chit chat no need for questions. You have to have the gift of goodbye, be able to let go. Again as I said before it is a process and things of this nature don't have a time frame.

Everyone wants to be happy and have that one somebody to give their heart to and them do the same in return. We are human and why wouln't we want that right? I believe that failed relationships happen, because we need to see the things we did right, wrong, or might need a little improvement on. Don't ever cry because its over, smile because it happened, and hopelfully you learned some valuable lessons from it.

Call me a hopeless romantic, but I believe there is that one special person out there for everyone. That one person that will make you laugh, feel all warm and fuzzy, who understands, and knows your wants, needs, and desires without you even mentioning a thing. Having someone in your life is always a blessing, but you don't have to be in a relationship to be happy. That comes within yourself first, and if someone comes along and wants to bring in more then that's just an added bonus. Just because you are single does not mean that you are any less of a person, or that anything is wrong with you. Would'nt you rather wait on the right person rather than jump into a relaionship and be unhappy just to say you have someone. Why do that?

I would like to end this with one of my all time favorite quotes: "To the world you may be one person, but to one person you are the world."