Forms of Abuse

Physiological abuse is a form of abuse that consists of several things that many people don't know, and can't see signs of as with physical abuse.

Control and dominance of a person is a form of abuse. Taking their free will away, and making them your victim. Dominance of a person is being manipulative of their free will. Many people who have grown up abused will tend to carry on this form of abuse the rest of their lives. They use control as a form of security without realizing it's a form of abuse and comfort. You may be thinking how can you control a person, it's easier then you think. You can control a person out of guilt and fear. It was only after I moved out was I able to tell my sister no more of her abuse.

Insulting, and downgrading a person. People insult others out of lack of self-esteem or low self-esteem themselves. It's a way to build them up, and a form of entertainment. This is also a form of control. Constant downgrading a person makes them think you as the abuser, are powerful, thus deserving of the abuse you give them.

Not being supportive of anything the person does. This may not sound like abuse but think about it, if your parent is never supportive of anything you have done, you grow up facing insecurities of never doing anything right. This causes low self-esteem, and problems in relationships.

Mind games, twisting words, blackmail, making kids jealous of their cousins, or friends. Examples of this consist of always comparing your kids to someone else and making it known to them. This makes the kid jealous of the person you keep comparing them to. Constant twisting of words, and mind games causes mental problems that takes years to recover from. Twisting of words, is when a person constantly keeps turning everything said even in an email into a fight, when it wasn't meant that way. Blackmail, examples, if you clean this room you won't be punished, but in the end, the child is punished anyway. Mind games are when you say someone said something and they didn't. Accusing them of lying when they defend themselves when you, and them both know it's not true.

Lying is a form of abuse, because you are taking the trust a person puts into you and breaking it. If a person in authority lies to someone, it teaches the person that authority figures can't be trusted. It also teaches them lying is ok.

Physical Abuse is a form of abuse that is often times obvious, but sometimes it's not.

Burning with cigarettes, cutting, beating, smacking, punching, pulling hair, kicking, choking, beating them to stop them from crying, and of course anything that brings blood, starvation, drugging them, locking them out of the house, neglect, force feeding, locking them in a closet.

Much of the above mentioned forms of abuse I have witnessed, or been a victim of by my parents, and my sister. Many times people don't even know they are abusive to other people. My sister is in such denial of abuse she causes people, that she has even created a "Fight Against Child Abuse" Myspace page, when she's the most abusive person, and parent anyone in my family, and my friends knows. It just goes to show you, anyone can be anything online, even if it's a lie.

Anything that takes away your free will is a form of abuse. There is a difference between reprimanding a child, and abusing them, just as there is a difference between being friends with someone, or being controlling, and dominating of them, thus making them your victim.