Four Signs that Your Friend is Toxic to Your Relationship

Very often, when we get into a new relationship, our friends may feel a bit slighted or put on the back burner. Very often, our friends can lash out in little sneaky ways in an attempt to poison your relationship or cause stress on it. It's not cool but it's pretty common. Here are four signs to look out for to see if your friend is toxic to your relationship.

Your Friend Blames Every Relationship Problem You Have On Your New Man Or Woman

We all chat with our friends about our relationships. Especially when there are problems. That's completely normal. However, If you say to your friend, "Well, she wants me to go clothes shopping with her for two hours on Saturday". (she only goes shopping for clothes about once ever three months) Your friend replies with, "Well tell her too bad and that you have things to do". Or you say to your friend, "I can't stand the fact that he watches Family Guy every week". (it's only a 30 minute show that shows once a week), Your friend replies with, "Well he's just an immature pig, you need to walk". Your friend may be toxic to your relationship.

Your Friend Forces You To Choose Between Them And Your New Man Or Woman

This isn't cool at all but it happens. One day, your friend just snaps and says, "It's either ME or HIM/HER. CHOOSE!". Now this is a big red flag. While it's a good idea for your friend to let you know how they are feeling, give you an ultimatum is not a good way to do things. Your friend likely won't even compromise at this point.

Your Friend Tries To Make You An Outcast

You find out things like your friend got together with your other friends for a guys or girls night out and didn't invite you. You confront your friend about it and they reply, "Oh I'm sorry, I just assumed you were hanging out with your new man or woman" You friend is attempting to make it appear as if you are an outsider to your group of friends. Not cool at all.

Your Friend Makes Rude Comments At Your Expense In Front Of Your New Lover.

Does your friend make snide comments about past relationships? "Remember that time, you messed around with that waitress two years ago?" (and you were MARRIED two years ago). Or, "Remember that time you got double teamed by two guys at that hotel last year?" And of course a fight will usually start between you and your lover later. The ONLY reason your friend would do that is if he or she is attempting to throw a wrench in the flywheel of your relationship.

If you see any of these signs from your friend in regard to your new relationship, you need to have sit down with them. You know what to say. Just let them know that you don't want to loose them as a friend but you need someone in a different way too. Attempt to not be so neglectful. Make time for your friend but don't turn your back on your relationship. Good luck to you.