From Friends to Lovers: How to Handle Falling in Love with Your Best Friend

I'm not going to lie, this one is a bit tricky. Guys and girls once they have grown up tend to have a hard time staying "friends." One or both usually develops feelings for the other. Unfortunately it never seems to be at the same time. Trying to protect yourself can both help and hinder you. But what are you supposed to do when you fall in love with your best friend? Instinctively you shut your mouth and walk around with these mounting feelings and before you know it jealousy and anger are rearing their ugly heads. There always comes the day when you realize that your "friend" is with someone else and you wish they were with you. How do you get through this without completely destroying your friendship and still leaving the possibility of "something more" open? This is a hard position to be, but remember in order to get what you want you may have to take a leap of faith. The question is are you prepared to do that?

Falling in love with your best friend can be great. You know each other's habits, quirks and obsessions. You've been there to see the good and bad and you've stuck with them through thick and thin. You've been a model best friend all along although now you are singing a different tune. Whether you are a guy or a girl falling for your best friend is never easy. There are a ton of mixed emotions that come along with it. Fear may be the one that stands out in your mind. If you confess your love for your friend, you may potentially lose them forever. Plus it never gets easier when they've chosen to date someone else. Jealousy can strike and put a rift into your relationship making the possibilities of turning it into something more even slimmer. What you need to do in these situations is calmly step back and think the situation through before making any major moves.

If your friend is dating someone else right now there is not a whole lot you can do. Sabotaging their relationship will only make you look like the bad guy in the end. Your best bet is to wait for the right moment. Take this time to gather your thoughts and reflect on the situation. Chances are you will have the chance to confess your feelings at some point. If and when that relationship goes sour you are the person they will run to. Although that sounds like a perfect opportunity to express your feelings, it might not be the ideal time to spill your guts. Give them time to recover before you unfold your feelings on them. Be prepared for an assortment of reactions, from shock to agreement.

What if they continue to be with someone else? Well, this may put an irreparable rift in your friendship. This sometimes happens in these kinds of friendships. If you cannot make your feelings know because your friend is with someone else you may have to back down. The relationship they are in may even conflict with your friendship. It's easy to say if "its meant to be, it will be," but its a lot harder to live it. Still you must respect their choices and if the relationship does end do not take it as an immediate green light to confess your feelings. Wait for the wound to heal and for your frienship to flourish again. Then you can effectively share your feelings with your friend.

Whatever route it goes when you finally confess your feelings for your friend it is not going to be easy. This confession could turn the whole course of your relationship around. You need to ask yourself if you are prepared to take that step. This is where you have to be willing to take a leap of faith. You don't really know where you will land until you jump but in order to get what you want its necessary. You may wind up with the greatest love of your life or you may fall on your face. Though if you do nothing you'll merely be wishing on a star forever. You make the call at what you want your destiny to be.

The end result is ultimately up to you. You choose how you get there. This is where you need to carve your own path and fulfill your own dreams. Having feelings for your best friend can be terrifying. You are putting a lot at stake and the situation requires intense consideration before you act. Just remember you cannot get anywhere without trying and putting yourself out there is so important, especially in love. Some of the best romances started out as friendships and love is often based on friendship. Don't torture yourself by keeping your feelings to yourself, sometimes all you get is one shot and you would not want to miss it. If friends can be lovers it makes the world a more beautiful place. Love does not come around that often, so take every chance you get. Remember be true to your feelings and true to your friends and when the two collide wonderful things can happen.