From a Guy's Perspective: 5 Questions Women Should Ask Before Getting Serious

Before getting serious with your new beau, it is important to ask him some basic questions to understand him better. The phrase "love is blind" holds true with many new relationships. However, it can cloud your judgment and lead to serial dating. With the divorce rate around 50 percent in America, it is important to understand your partner before committing into something beyond casual dating.

What are your past dating habits?

Let's be honest, this question is awkward and can lead to a fight. However, it is important to know if he had multiple short flings, or if was looking for a long-term partner. If he had a history of short flings, do not think you will change him. If his history shows that he was looking for something serious, then the relationship has a better chance of lasting longer than a few weeks or months.

What are your career goals?

The most common fight between couples is about money. For your relationship to work, you both must have the same money goals. This includes your desired occupation. If your goal is to make a lot of money by working long hours, it can lead to relationship tensions with someone who has opposite goals. However, the opposite also holds true. You both need the similar financial and career goals to avoid fights down the road.

What is your highest level of education?

Higher education, statistically, leads to higher paying jobs and stable careers. While this does not always hold true, it is a major factor. Having different levels of education can lead to different tastes and career goals. Be sure you know what you are getting yourself into before committing to someone who has a different education level. If you are both happy and education is not an important factor, then do not let this stop you from finding true love.

Where do you want to live in the future?

While this question does not apply to everyone, it is important to know where your partner wants to live in the future. Does he want to live close to his parents, in a warm climate, or does he want to live abroad? If you both have the same destination in mind, it will avoid fights later on during the relationship. As a guy, my biggest turnoff is someone who has drastically different living plants than I do. I prefer city living to the country, which is one thing I would have a hard time sacrificing for a relationship.

What is your family life like?

Family life is by far the most important aspect to determine if your current partner is right for you. When your values are similar growing up and your socio-economic levels are about the same, it makes transitioning into a serious relationship much easier. Look at how he treats his parents, especially his mother. If they have a good relationship, then chances are you will too. However, if his family life has left him jaded, he may not be looking to settle down or trust someone new easily.

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When to End a Long Term Relationship

Sources:

http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/fastats/divorce.htm