Gender Identity and the 21st Century: Am I Bi or a Lesbian?
Am I bi?
If you have realized that you are not heterosexual but wondering am I bi then you have to know how to handle those feelings. You might want to decide what to use as a label for your sexual identity. So how can you tell? You should remember that all of this is your personal decision. Don't allow other people to put you in a box. If you are bi then you simply love a person without any gender attached. I other words: you are not descriminatory in any manner sexually. It generally has to involve you as a woman being attracted sexually to another woman at least once in your life.
Am I a Lesbian?
Do you feel a sexual aversion to guys? If the thought of having a sexual encounter with a guy makes you ill then you are definately not heterosexual. If at the same time, you have an attraction to girls then you are definately a lesbian. Gender identity and the 21st century with lesbians can be confusing, don't make it more confusing then it is. Consider these basics and you will know what your sexual prefernce is.
Tips and thoughts on your new identity.
Do not allow anyone to place you in a box with a label. As you decide how to present yourself to the world with your new identity realize that many gay women will try to place a label on you.You don't have to change your attire because you just came out. You don't really have to choose which identity you are associated with. It really doesn't matter. If you are true to who you are then you will attract a person that likes who you are. In the end, that is the only thing that matters. Gender identity and the 21st century with lesbians is way to tricky to handle at first, but like middle school; you will get it sorted out. Congrats on your new life. You have made the most important step in the journey. You came out and know who you really are sexually.
Published by Kitty Stevens
Kitty holds a Bachelors Degree in Science with minors in Spanish, French, History and Music. She went on to become certified as a Reading Specialist and has worked as a Bilingual teacher for over 12 years. H... View profile
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5 Comments
Post a CommentInteresting article. Thanks
Very interesting article. I am not sure that I agree or understand it all, but it is a very interesting take.
Thanks I hear about this issue a lot with teens that I have mentored. It is tricky for anyone at any age.
Nice job on this. People need to be true to how they feel and who they are without letting others define them.
Probably most people who are completely honest with themselves would acknowledge some attraction toward both genders... unfortunately, many people are not that honest. Moreover, the fear of bring anything but precisely straight, sets off the homophobic bomb in many people. The words matter less than the reality... I think!