Get the Woman You Love the Gift She Really Wants: Listen to the Woman's Love Language for Inexpensive Ideas

Stuck trying to figure out what to get the woman you love? Gifts do not need to be about money. I argue that they shouldn't be about money. The purpose of a gift is to show your feelings for the woman you love not to just throw more possessions at her. Some women don't even feel loved through physical gifts. In the love language theory by Gary Chapman there are 5 love languages. Finding the woman's love language will help in finding the perfect gift to make her feel loved, respected, and cherished.

Love Language #1: Words of Affirmation

If the woman's love language is words of affirmation, then the perfect gift is a long, detailed, sweet, and heartfelt letter. Splurge for some nice stationary to put it on. Do several drafts of the letter until you have it exactly right. Copy the letter by hand onto the stationary. If your handwriting is horrible have a printed copy available for her after she opens it. For women who feel love through words of affirmation, this will be a gift they will treasure.

Love Language #2: Quality Time

If the woman's love language is quality time, you need to give the gift of a meaningful experience. A long walk, or a candlelit dinner at home are ideal. Prepare yourself by making sure you have all the supplies. Be well stocked with warm clothes, portable hot chocolate, and a beautiful scenic path. Make sure you have candles, lighters, and ingredients to make the homemade dinner. Quality time is enhanced by quality conversation. Have a bunch of questions ready to ask her to get to know her better. Ask about her hopes and dreams, be ready to talk about yours if she asks. A woman loves it when you care about what she has to say. Listen and show your interest in her life. Do not redirect the attention to yourself unless it is the only way to save the conversation. Try instead to ask clarifying questions to help her dig deeper into her self expression.

Love Language #3: Receiving Gifts

If the woman's love language is receiving gifts then you should go shopping for her. Go shopping at antique stores, pawn shops and nice second hand stores. You are likely to find a more unique gift and are more able to haggle over price if you need to. The gift can be inexpensive while still showing the woman that you care. If the woman you love likes gifts, find out what types of gifts that she enjoys. Is there something that she has been wanting for a while? What does she do with her free time? Does she have any collections? Is there something she has always wanted to try? Let the answers to these questions be your guide and you seek an inexpensive but precious gift for the woman you love.

Love Language #4: Acts of Service

If the woman's love language is acts of service, then a handcrafted coupon book of deeds shows your willingness to serve her. These little tickets feel like a gift when she receives it and then again each time she uses a ticket. Get some nice stationary and handwrite each ticket. Think of acts that you don't normally perform but are willing to do. Think of acts you have done in the past that have helped her feel special. Cooking, cleaning, and dealing with other daily minutiae that she usually handles shows that you understand how much work she does. It shows that you appreciate this work and appreciate her enough to do them for her.

Love Language #5: Physical Touch

If the woman's love language is physical touch, make plans to be intimate in the ways she most enjoys. Make it about her. Don't assume that you know what she is enjoying, ask her. Tell her that you want to make her feel most loved and lay down any limitations that you have before you ask for her desires. One physically intimate activity that many women enjoy is a back massage. Several tutorials are available to learn from. For massage it is good to pick up massage oil so that you don't pull the skin.

Gifts for Women

A woman's love language is a useful guide toward getting the woman you love the gift she really wants. Many women are not interested in gifts you purchase. Women want gifts that show that you've been paying attention, that you know what makes them feel loved. Many of these gifts can be accompanied by standard gifts for women such as chocolate, flowers, candles, and bath supplies. They can also be combined in interesting ways. You can serve the woman you love breakfast in bed while having meaningful conversation and giving a neck massage for instance.

References:

Love Languages by Gary Chapman: http://www.fivelovelanguages.com/