Getting Along with Women at the Workplace; A Few Pointers

One of the best places to sharpen your skills with the ladies is at the workplace. A dude told me that most men avoid administrative positions because they don't want to deal with the drama that women have with each other on the job; well, those are the only type of jobs I am going to get and quite honestly I actually like working behind the desk, for obvious reasons. You will never see me at any one's construction site and I haven't been in a stock room since the mid nineties. But I have learned a few things over the years to help those who do get caught up in the drama.

You are going to have one "work wife", do not pursue more than one, and leave well enough alone

Your "work wife" is that girl that you are going to spend the bulk of your day next to on the job. Everyone that works in an administrative or office position has at least one. The best policy is to find one girl to help you make it through the day and leave it at that. I've made the mistake of having multiple "work wives" on the job, the drama can be worse than if you were intimately involved with all of them because it sure as hell does feel as though you are cheating on someone. If your work wife doesn't show up then should ride solo and that is just going to be a quiet uneventful day on the job. At least you may actually get some work done.

Never meet anyone on the job, off of the job

The worst thing you can do is to attempt to date your coworkers. That type of thing may work in-between positions but rarely when you two are working the same job, in the same capacity, getting the same pay. No one really wants to, but chances are someone is going to ask you go to lunch with them or better yet, hang out with them somewhere off the job. Other women may actually approach you with something, or an actual situation to contemplate. The best policy here is not to have any policy at all and politely refuse.

You don't choose your work wife; she chooses you, and quite honestly, it really does not matter at the end of the day

You are going to vibe with some women more than others, that is perfectly natural and at the end of the day it really doesn't matter. The more you focus on the politics of the office, (which is really all that phenomenon is) the more difficult things can get for you. I had a job where I suddenly found myself working with someone I vehemently and violently disagreed with and had a distaste for and my boss told me that I was in that cubicle for a good reason. I went along with it and looking back on it, I would not have had it any other way. Other potential "work wives" that I could have had, well their significant other always popped up out of nowhere (like who let you in the building past security). I would conveniently make my way over there though, which was a big no no, I was supposed to stay in my cubicle happy and content; that only caused problems. These days, I find a nice place to sit at, and I stay there until the day is over, I don't play musical chairs at the work place anymore ...

If women want to talk about each other that is okay, but you shouldn't talk about anyone ...

When women get to complaining about each other on the job I am amused but I keep my comments to myself. First off my "work wife" is the strongest ally I have in there, so I would be a fool to take a position against her; that is just career suicide. Second, that situation is temporarily, so when someone moves to a different department and I get another someone else to confide in I don't want to be on bad terms with the new person I am siting across from. Making it in the office is really easy, really, it is. Just do your work, stay on your grind, and if that woman that sits in front of you, or behind you, or across from you, wants to b* just let her b*; it really does not matter when you go home to your real life ...