Getting Attention from Men After Weight Loss

I recently received an email from a friend of mine in the great state of Texas. She has been doing really well with her exercise regimen and eating a lot better and has seen the results. And she knows, intellectually that when you are in the middle of a weight loss/health program your body is a work in progress. I mean she really knows, she is a friggin' nurse, so seriously, SHE KNOWS!

However I have repeatedly said that knowing something logically doesn't necessarily mean that we can shut off our feelings? Mainly, because it just doesn't matter what you know, sometimes it's all about how you feel.

Anyway, she is in a store and notices a man, (just some random dude) checking her out. This, of course, make her nervous while making her very happy, indeed.

So she starts adjusting herself, a little self conscious. I mean who is he looking at, her? Really, or maybe someone over her shoulder, perhaps that 20-something she saw a minute ago? Any how, she starts for the door and get this, he runs across the store, knocks down an older lady, jumps a hurdle of small children, and in a move that would make the Jets proud, side steps a display of Cheez Its, and huffing and puffing, he grabs the door and holds it open for her.

Okay, okay, it didn't happen quite like that.

However he did hold the door open for her and was smiling. She is thinking "What a gentleman", and smiles back. And in the few seconds this thought is floating through her mind, he is still smiling, while studying her pretty face, his gaze lowers to "the girls" as most men's do, and yep, he is STILL smiling. Now by this time she is feeling just great. A man other than her man is appreciative of her beauty, of her efforts, wow! And then he glances down to what she refers to as her "pooch" and then BAM! He looks away with what she describes as "a look of sheer disappointment".

And what happened? Well my friend gets pissed and walks away without a backward glance, she is now once again upset with her weight, now she is thinking "what a LOSER"!

My point is this, though we shouldn't let them, our surroundings and interactions DO shape us and our moods. Before the jerk wad made his "face" she was on cloud nine. Happy with her progress thus far, feeling sexy and strutting her stuff. After "the face" she spiraled down into a completely different mood. And it all happen in the blink of an eye with just one look.

I just think it sucks that we can let someone else's glance, or grimace, affect us so greatly, and from a stranger, no less. Take it with a grain of salt ladies and keep moving onward. If it helps, create a mantra for when this happens, because it will, something along the lines of , "I'm fabulous, no matter what" or something else equally as cheesy, basically, arm yourself before hand so that when you encounter something like this, it doesn't send you screaming to the nearest Baskin Robbins for a sundae.

Don't let it negate your progress.