Getting Back that Spark in Your Relationship

It happens more times than we care to admit. We spend years with our lover and somewhere along the way, we become more friends than lovers. You don't hold hands anymore, you don't make out, and sex may be just something that you feel you are OBLIGATED to do with your spouse or lover. You both can get out of this rut if you really want to. It's not that difficult. Take a look at a few suggestions.

What was it that attracted you to your spouse or lover in the first place? OK, so she has gained a bit of weight after the kids and he now has a beer belly and is going bald. But did you two really marry or fall in love with one another because of the way he or she looks? Likely not. He or she is still the same person you feel in love with. You both just have to work to bring those things out again.

The First....

You likely remember the first date the two of you went on. You likely remember the first time you made love to each other and where it was. If at all possible, bring him or her to the same restaurant that you went to on your first date. Try to get the same table if you can remember where you sat. Was the first time you made love in the local hotel when you both told your parents that you were spending the night with your friend? Go ahead and rent a room and try to get the same room if you can remember.

Even if you don't still live in the area, there are things you can do. To the man...Remember how you were with her the first few months you were together? Remember how you used to open the door for her, help her on with her coat, and pull out her chair for her at dinner? Has it been a while since you did those things on a regular basis? Start doing them again. She may be surprised but she will surely notice. Ladies....Remember how you wouldn't let him see you unless your hair was perfect and you had your makeup on? Go get a makeover and pretty yourself up for HIM. Do something different with your hair. You can't re-live the past but you can remind your spouse or lover just WHY the two of you decided to marry or get together in the first place.

Men

Now back in the day, you did a lot of things that helped her fall in love with you. You ROMANCED her. You were on your best behavior. You were attentive and loving. Women love attention from their man. Give her some attention. I'm not just talking about sex either so get your mind out of the gutter. Cook her lunch, do the dishes or clean the bathroom and help her out a bit. You would have done it when you were first dating her. Isn't she worth it NOW?

Ladies

Back when you were first dating him, you listened to him talk. You were hanging on every word. Even if you didn't give a damn about what he was saying. Try that again. Guys love attention just as much as women do and guys like to know that their lady finds them attractive. So go ahead. Do and say those things you used to. Let him know that you still desire him, let him know you are still attracted to him.

There are way to many divorces and breakups these days. You and your partner can stop yourselves from being a statistic by just loving each other like you used to. Look at your partner right now. Even after all these years, they are STILL the same person inside that you fell in love with. Let's get back to that place that you both want to be. Good luck.