Getting Your Good Girl to Be Bad

It's no secret that men and women have different ideas when it comes to sexual fantasies. Men usually veer toward exciting and spontaneous while women lean more toward the romanticized version. And, although there are compromises and concessions made--generally by the man--those two totally different versions hardly ever meet in the middle.

Then you wonder why after a few months or years your love life seems boring and routine. Even your attempts to add a little spice seem predictable. Because your sweetheart opts for planned romantic escapades rather than the spontaneously sexy exploits that you only know from "adult" movies.

Easing your conservative girl into more liberal ideas about intimacy isn't impossible. It's just a more gradual process than most guys are willing to try. Not saying that you will be able to talk her into the threesome you've been dreaming of with her best friend, but you will be able to get her try new things without her thinking you are an absolute pervert.

The most important thing to remember is that, if you want her to be more liberal over the long run, it has to be a gradual process. You have to start small and work your way up. Don't scare her right away by suggesting something completely out there.

Breaking in the adult movies. Let's face it; a woman's idea of an adult movie is totally different from what you would buy. We are thinking sexual but loving with lots of sexy plot lines, noises, and positions. Meanwhile you bring home "Basic Bangers 8," and look like a sleaze. So, in the beginning meet her where she is. Believe it or not there are a few "adult" movie lines that cater to couples, lines such as "Wicked Entertainment," produce movies with plot lines and romanticized sexual scenes with the less tame stuff being worked In methodically. This will allow you to gradually increase what she is able to tolerate.

Trying something a little different. The good news is that each step helps you get to the next. If you can get her to sit through an adult movie, you are half way there. Now, you can suggest trying some of the more tame things from the movie. But only bring up the suggestions when you are being intimate. Don't suggest trying a new position on the way home from work. And remember to start with the more tame positions. Women also love a take charge type of guy. So, you may even be able to get away with simply working a few of the tamer positions in during intimacy. But, be careful. The personality of your girl should be your deciding factor before springing something like this on her.

Ready to role-play? It's funny but when most people think of role-playing they want to pretend that they are perfect strangers who happen to meet in a bar. Yet role-playing can be much simpler. And, if you want a conservative minded woman to go for it, it will have to be. Ease her into role-playing by whispering a scenario into her ear when you are being intimate. Nothing that she will have to actually have to do; but something that she will have to think or fantasize about. Say something like, "what if we were in your office on your lunch break?" Try a more descriptive scenario each month or week, depending on your situation.

Getting your lady to be more adventurous may seem like an uphill battle, but if you are successful you won't always be the one making suggestions.