Getting Her in the Mood

Karl Withakay
I'm going to let you in on a little secret. As men, we sexually connect on a physical level. We need to see, and touch. Women, (all women including yours) connect on an emotional level. If your lady is not being fulfilled emotionally, it's going to be difficult for her to open up sexually. Unless she's on some medications that lower her sex drive or her hormones are off balance, she is not being emotionally fulfilled. So are you getting my drift? You have to tickle her emotional bone.

Romance Her

Now if you've been slacking off in the romance department don't expect that one night of romance will get her in bed and she'll be your little porn star. You may have to work at it for a bit and it may take a little more time than you anticipated. She may need to see some consistency from you for a while. That's OK though. If she sees that you've turned over a new leaf, she may be in the mood more and the sex may be much better than before. When your lady has sex with you because she loves you and wants to be close to you, it will be a lot better than if she's doing it to shut you up or because she feels obligated to have sex.

Buy Her A Card

Start things off by buying her a romantic greeting card. Just go in the greeting card section of the store and target the romance, relationships, or love sections and pick out a card. They have some really sweet ones that can melt her heart. Don't wait for a special occasion either. Do the unexpected.

Kiss Her Neck

If you are kissing her, kiss her neck gently. Wake her up in the morning by gently kissing her neck. There's something about a kiss on her neck that gets most woman's motor running. If you're a bit impatient kissing her neck could speed things up.

Yeah I know that it's only three things but those three things can make a big difference. Now if she's on some medications that lower her sex drive, no amount of romance will help. Have her discuss alternative treatment options for whatever she's taking the medications for with her doctor.

If you practice these three things, you'll likely see a spike in your sex life with your lady. It's simple. If you make her happy by fulfilling her emotional needs, she'll make you happy and fulfill your physical needs. Have fun and good luck.

Published by Karl Withakay

Karl is a full time 43 y/o Singer/guitarist/songwriter. He is also a self proclaimed computer geek. He builds, fixes and modifies computers. He is a US Navy, Gulf War Vet. and has worked as a CNA, a Parame...  View profile

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  • Celeste11/9/2010

    Loved the comment from Candes King.......
    Its true!!!!

  • Candes King Meisenheimer10/19/2010

    ya know, speaking as a woman who's been married for 'a while', I wonder what my husband is up to when he does stuff like this. The last time he kissed me on the neck he got punched. On the other hand, the last time he did dishes he got very lucky.

  • Robert Lee Alford10/19/2010

    Great job here.

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