Getting Over First Date Jitters
Everyone will have the first date jitters at one time or another in their life. Whether your first date is with a blind date or a good friend, anxiety is natural. What should you wear? How should you conduct yourself? Will this person like you? Getting over first date jitters is all in the attitude. Sometimes it just takes adopting the right perspective.
Do keep things in perspective. This is just a first date. You're not walking down the aisle or making any kind of commitment to this person. You're just getting to know each other. A first date is more about forming a friendship than anything serious. Take a deep breath and go in with a positive attitude. You may not make a love connection. That's OK. You might make a friend instead.
Everyone says be yourself. What does that mean exactly? First date jitters often cause people to exaggerate their qualities and talents. Forget about the star performance. You won't get a second date if you spend the evening bragging. (Especially if your bragging rights are questionable.) Be honest. Be human. Be who you are with close friends and family.
Lower your expectations. First date jitters can amplify both good and bad expectations. Why go in with dreams that may not come true. Don't place restrictions. Let the date flow naturally. Enjoy it for what it ism, not what you expected it to be. Who knows? It just might not live up to your expectations. On the other hand, it might be better.
Cross your T's dot your I's. One of the best ways to eliminate first date jitters is to do your best to relieve your own fears, then let them go. In other words, look your best, behave your best and project your best attitude. Once you know you've done all you can to make the date successful, relinquish control. Leave it up to fate.
Put a smile on. Go ahead, smile. You know in your heart that you will have an enjoyable time if you believe it. So paste on that grin. Look in the mirror and laugh if you must. It's a great tension reliever. Plus it reminds you there's nothing to be so anxious about. Just that one thing can change the whole mood of a first date. Want to get over first date jitters? Don't take it so seriously.
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