Good Conversation: How to Keep a Discussion Going

Communication is an essential part of human existence. We can not survive in this world if we do not converse and interact with other people. However, not all of us are blessed with great personal relation skills. In fact, a lot of people are afraid of talking to another person or in front of a crowd for several reasons including physical deformities, lack of knowledge, and emotional hindrances.

Conversation should not be feared because, like crying, shouting, and smiling, it is just another form of expressing one's self - using words and verbal arguments. A good conversation is what keeps a discussion, a debate, or even a party going. So, if you want to get over your poor conversation habits, here are some useful tips you should practice:

1. Open up interesting general subjects. Topics that are too specific or course-related may not be appealing to all. Current issues or news items are perfect starters because you can be sure that other people are aware of them.

2. Do not be afraid of conversational taboos. However, know your limitations. Delicate topics such as religion and po­litics can be discussed without coming to blows. Often, vital issues, especially those that take sides, make the best conversations.

3. Discuss, do not argue. State facts and opinions politely other people, but do not force then to believe what you believe in. At the same time, be open to their viewpoints. After all, the purpose of a conversation is to exchange views and information, not to convert the other person to your particular set of prejudices.

4. Listen. Like relationships, conversation should have a give-and-­take rhythm. Allow other people to speak their mind out without constant interruptions. Pay attention and focus to every detail they say and. A ge­nuine interest in another person's point of view is absolutely essential.

5. Stay with the subject. Do not flit from topic to topic without doing justice to any. Try to explore an issue with reasonable thoroughness.

6. Say what you think. Do not be afraid to agree or disagree to a particular issue. A certain amount of honest friction heightens interest and establishes mutual respect.

7. Do not panic when there is a pause. You do not have to rush in to fill every little pocket of silence. Pauses are a necessary part of every good conversation. They re­fresh the communicator's minds and provide an opportunity to collect one's thoughts before plunging on again with the discussion.