Groupie Love, Dating a Celebrity

Hair done? Check. Makeup? Check. Favorite outfit on? Check. Perfume on? Check. Breath check? Double check. Brain? Uh oh. It looks like you might have forgotten something.

You're looking fierce and ready to get that backstage pass to see your favorite artist. You've already decided this is the future father of your child or your next husband to be, but do you have a conversation to go with that fierce walk, build and talk?

There are some artists who just flat out won't date women outside of the entertainment industry because some may not understand how much work must be put into an entertainment career. Then there are artists who are more than willing and prefer to date women outside of the entertainment industry because they might not be prey to the superficial culture of Hollywood.

But what happens when you're looking as bad as you want to be and that artist tries to hold a conversation with you? Are you drawing a blank on a conversation outside of how great he is or how much you want to be in his life?

On "Lopez Tonight," George Lopez asked singer and actor Tyrese Gibson what he looks for in a woman.

Tyrese's response was, ""I'm attracted to smart women. Women that are not caught up in their outer, but they've got some brains...you know how you can meet somebody and they're so consumed with their outer? The conversation's boring. They ain't got nothing to bring to the table. I'm not leaving the conversation feeling like I took anything away from the talk. It's just 'Damn, she's beautiful.' You want to roll over to something that's sexy, and be able to have a nice conversation that actually makes sense."

Rapper Lupe Fiasco basically said the same thing Tyrese did but in a more blunt fashion on his leaked song, ""I'm Beamin." He rhymed, "Baby girl, what does it matter where your purse from/your hair done/your nails did/your ass fat/but you're dumb."

Pharrell said on AskMen.com, "I'm just looking for the right girl. I'm looking for my Yoko Ono."

And even outside of intelligence and peace, there's always that artist who wants to be able to be attracted to you in your natural state.

If you listen to the lyrics to Drake's "Best I Ever Had," he says, "Sweat pants, hair tied, chillin' with no make-up on, That's when you're the prettiest, I hope that you don't take it wrong."

Ne-Yo backs him up with lyrics saying, "Just pull your hair back and throw on some sweats/Or something less/You ain't got to impress me/No need to fix up no make-up/No stress/Girl, I could care less/I just want you right here with me."

So what does that mean? That you should show up to the next concert with jogging pants on and a wifebeater as long as you're smart? Probably not unless you're trying to apply to be the new security guard. Or since you're already smart and sexy, your favorite male celebrity should give you a call, right? Nope, dear, you're one of many smart, sexy women. This goes double for entertainment reporters who think that since they have a celebrity's number, he must really want her instead of really wanting the interview. So what's a girl to do when she's trying to meet her celebrity crush?

Tip One: Stop trying so hard. Know the difference between being a fan and being a woman of interest. Men are still a fan of a challenge and most will admit to enjoying the chase as long as a woman isn't pushing away too hard.

Tip Two: Getting mad at other women who like the same celebrity you do is not going to get you anywhere but looking insane. Be easy. It's a packaged deal. The groupies come with the celebrity life. If you are able to meet that celebrity and you two click, then of course it has to be a two-way street. He has to be respectful of the relationship just as you would. If you're trying harder than he is to make the relationship exclusive, on to the next one.

Tip Three: Stop trying out for these reality shows like "Frank the Entertainer in a Basement Affair," "For the Love of Ray J" and "Flavor of Love." How often do you see these relationships lasting? Now how often do you see fights breaking out with women who like the celebrity the same amount while the celebrity is in another room cracking up at these ladies' desperation?

Tip Four: Stop pursuing only celebrities. There's a surplus of men out there who have the same X factor as that guy you see on television or hear on the radio. You might be missing out on him while you're cutting out photos of your celebrity crush in magazines.