Haterz

Children often believe everything that they are taught as well as that they are told. The good, the bad, the fantasy, the abusive, the ugly. For children, play is not just playtime. It often an escape from pain. Sometimes play can be an abused child's reality. This is how you can also see if the child is being abused if you pay attention. Growing up, we watch television and everything on the television world looks perfect, including the portrayal of family ties and bonds. Soon, you grow up and the reality sinks in. Or in some cases, situations force you to grow up real fast and you wake up to a harsh reality. This is when you will see the child who is growing up too fast or are often referred to as the child who is so adult.

What happens when adults are so miserable or so jealous of a child that they choose to abuse the child verbally, physically, sexually, and attack the child's self esteem? The abuse is so bad that it is to the point where their whole purpose in life is to totally destroy this child so that the child believes that they are a total failure and will never be anything when they grow up because they are told this all the time while growing up. It is instilled in them so much that when they become an adult they can not see their own future or do not have the focus or self esteem to see a positive future for them selves at all. First question I ask, for those abusers, why the hell did you have the child in the first place? Second, where did your parenting skills come from? Third. Do you realize it is a sin to abuse children who are innocent? What God do you believe in that you think it is okay to abuse a child let along your own? When do you stop? Because some of you SOB's continue this behavior even after the child has grown up and left your house. What are you so miserable about that you just can not stop your nonsense and your abuse towards this child who then becomes an adult?

I am sick and tired of these silent monsters that wear church faces and hide behind religion and their glorious reputations where everyone on the planet earth thinks these people are so wonderful but behind close doors they are abusive monsters who destroy their children every day with their cruel behaviors which does more harm then actually physically striking the child? And folks, it does not stop when the child grows up either. Oh No....it continues into the child now adults too. It is a power trip for these types of people. These are your control freaks who think they know everything and they become angry when you do not agree with them or use their so called suggestions when in actuality they are really pushing their idea on you to try and force you to do what they want. When they can not use the old tactics of abuse that they use to use when the adult was the victim child, so they graduate by criticizing the adult child by putting them down or the purport to act as if they know everything about this adult child's life. These attacks are left with no exceptions. This includes putting them down as a parent towards their own grand children. Sometimes they will go as far as calling child services and make false accusations of child abuse and neglect just to cause an intentional disruption in their adult child abuse victim's life. This will often include the abusers claim to know everything that is going on in the abuse victim's adult life, followed by putting the adult child down entirely. So if you are the adult child that I am talking about and you are getting criticism from an abusive parent that say is making a big deal about your weight gain which you might have gained after you had kids, but yet that abusive parent is fat themselves and has the audacity to talk s!@#! to you, you are still being abused. If you know that your life is good and you are happy but the minute you are around these abusive parents they are talking to you as if you have accomplished nothing with your life and yet they were not there to see all the good that you have done or shared in your accomplishments, you are still being abused. Please understand. NOTHING YOU DO WILL EVER BE or is ever going to be good enough for these people. They will be hateful. They will be but in the meantime when you look at their life, it is not all that great. These will be the same people that will talk about how they could have this if they had not had you. They could have done that if they did not have to take care of you. Or my favorite is the ones that claim that they sacrificed SOOOO much to take care of you but every time you turn around they were chasing after some one so that their miserable asses would not be alone. Hence, one they have their fling around all they do is talk bad about their own child to this person or to other people. Did I strike a nerve yet? Good! What does all of this mean? Misery loves company. Their life is miserable so they figure that you need to be just as bad as them and they will NOT contribute to helping you do better than them at all. What are you supposed to do? Stay away. Get counseling. Understand that sometimes not all good family is good for you.

What happened to these 70's 80's parents? Did the era of that generation of their brain get fried so much from their hippie days that by the time they us we became their punching bags? What is going on? As Marvin Gaye asked in his song "What's going on?" It is bad enough that generation of the now is just total chaos, but their chaotic mess is because of our breeding from our generation of misguidance, abuse, and lack of structure. It is really sad. Our generation had to deal with the peak of the drugs getting out of control. The Aids and HIV. The STD's. Teen pregnancy. Rise in suicide. Gang Banging. The increase in crime rate. Child abuse. Domestic Violence. We also had the influence of music and television with music videos. Where is the reality of the Brady Bunch syndrome in this entire calamity? Where is the caring mother who is at home and nurtures their children and attends school functions? Where is the dad who comes home from work and the kids and mother greeting him at the door with open arms of hugs and kisses? Does this family really exist? Now let's take the opposite. The parents who both work and when they get home they could care less what is happening with the kids because they are paying someone else to take care them. When they get home from work, they do not want to be bothered to the point where when the child tries to hug and kiss them they have them kiss their hands. Or the parent who never ever makes an effort to attend any event the child is in at their school and that child is the only child without any support from their parents while all the children have their parents support. Or the child that is yelled and screamed at just for existing and being in their presence. I could go on and on but you have an idea of what I am saying to you. You know what I am talking about if you have been this child. If you haven't then welcome to this world because this does exist. There are parents out there who just hate their children. Here another one. How about the single mother who was left by her husband for another woman or just that the lover got her pregnant and she is raising the child alone and he could careless. Ok. Now as the child is growing up, their parent decides to take out all her anger on the child. From name calling to put down comparisons of child and father. To the point where the child is told that he or she is just like that other parent in a very nasty and negative way. People! If you are the person who is reading this and is doing this to your child, you are a sick individual who needs to get some help and you need to stop doing this abusive crap to your child!!!! If you have that much hatred for the child then find someone in your family that knows how to raise and love that child because obviously you are not cut out for the role of parenting. In the meantime, this poor kid later on grows up screwed up. Even if the child does not develop an eating disorder or drug addiction or alcoholism. There are other addictions that they develop that no one wants to talk about. Like for example. They become sex addicts and masturbators. They are pushed to the point of solitude that they can not interact with other individuals for a normal relationship because they do not know how to be so they become asexual with themselves and love themselves because that is their coping mechanism. They also develop a rudeness characteristic where they do not know how to open or interact with others. Their personal relationships fail always. They develop severe depression where they become agoraphobic. They also get involved with the wrong individuals which can also lead to criminal activities I have seen this at my job at our facility with the inmates. Abused children who started to look for love in wrong places who then became adults that found love in the wrong place and now they are an adult in the wrong place and do not know where they belong. Do you want your child to become my inmate? Keep it up and this can also be them too!

Have you ever heard of the word Jealousy? Jealousy is a real MF! It sure is! It is an evil little demon that loves to creep up on people who allow it to take over them so that they can hut someone else's feelings because that miserable person does not have what the other person has. Ever heard of it? Well I bet you never heard of this one. Do you know that there is such a thing as a parent being jealous of a child? You got it! Some of them are so bad that this jealousy is the start of the snow ball effect of the abuse that the child experiences growing up. Let me take it even further. God forbid that child receives praise from an outsider or if the child is defended by an outsider who does see the hateful things that the parent is trying to push for the outsider to see negative in that child, later on there is hell to pay towards that child. Abuse. It comes in so many forms, but this is the sickest one. Sad part is, when the child speaks up and tells an adult what is happening to them, the reaction to child from the fans of these abusers is the accusation that the child is lying. The second reaction is that the child's confidence is betrayed because who ever they told now has taken it upon them selves to go back and tell the hateful parents what the child has revealed to them instead of seeking assistance with the situation by some other means and taking the child's safety into consideration. The end result. The child is even more abused by both verbal confrontation and physical assault and threatened at the same time. For those of you who have done this to a child, you could be thrown in jail too for assisting with this abuse. Think people!!!! Please! Children are not going to just come up to you and tell you what they are going through just to make conversation. It is very easy to see when a child is being abused. All you have to do is pay attention. You can also see if an adult has been abused as well. Either from how they are with their own children. The way in which they interact with their spouse or significant other. Whether they can be alone and independent or if they act as if they MUST be with someone all the time and they jump from one relationship to another one. These are all the results of the wonderful parenting they received in the hands of their wonderful parents.

Some people grow up in this type of environment and build an inner strength which gives them the courage to seek help and they are able to recover from this abuse. Still others, maybe if they are lucky might have an outsider that cares about them more than the abusive family they have been exposed to, who will love that child unconditionally and will mentor that child into their adult hood to help prevent the victim mentality that often is developed by children who are abused and end in a vicious cycle of abuse where they later on as adults end up with an abuser as their relationship or marriage. Sometimes the victim of abuse can also become the abuser. If you see this, please help stop this cycle. Children who are exposed to this unhealthy environment will either end up psychologically ill or dead from suicide or emotionally scarred where they follow the wrong crowd with the danger of looking for love in the wrong places with the wrong habits, people, and choices. Please do not allow this cycle to continue. If you are a victim, stop being a victim and become a victor. Get help. Do not turn to drugs, alcohol, or wrong people places or things to cope with this abuse. Do not take this out on your own children either. It is not an easy decision to make and it will take time, but the cycle must be broken.